I left this board a few months ago, in a bad, angry place. You can read my old posts if you need to catch up. I'm too computer illiterate to patch in my posts. I am BS, WW has had an A since May, told me End of July. Last post, I think, was me contacting OM's W. (WW and OM work together). OM's W turned out to be crazy with anger, throwing everything at OM. She even called our house one night, and we had a four-way phone converstation. Basically the two W's did all the talking. After that phone call (nothing resolved) WW and I had a 5 hour talk. Me venting all the pain she has caused. WW saying I should let her go. WW continued to go crazy with $, not seeing our D5, etc. I exposed then to her sister and Mother, who staged an intervention w/ WW's best friend. Basically over her lack of attention to D5, not our failing M. WW came home and said "I don't want you or OM, I just want to make it right w/D5."
Well, WW did that for awhile, while I kept telling her to give us a chance, quit job, NC. I had a plan. She wouldn't consider it at all. WW did start IC (I did too). Won't commit to MC. Time moved on, I still Plan A'd all I could. 7 weeks ago or so, I noticed she took off a couple of days off during the week. When WW got home, she totally looked guilty as he%&. WW still proclaimed once in awhile that she wanted to move out, but money not available. We had an early Christmas at my folks, where we received some money, whick we used to pay off all of our bills. After the bill paying, I asked her what she was going to do. I told her I don't know how much longer I can do this. Well, this threw her for the only loop yet. WW told me the next day she wouldn't see OM outside of work anymore while she lived here ( like putting a band-aid on a severed arm). Anyways, she still avoided me at all costs. Almost an impossible PLan A. I finally got on Zoloft about a month ago ( about 4 months too late). Same time, I wrote WW a small letter, basically copied from "dance of anger", which stated I need to work on myself, and I would give her space. Only letter she has responded to. My IC has been talking to me about how long I can continue like this. I basically have been doing a Plan A/ Plan B with WW at home. WW told me let's make it thru the holidays (for D5), then, who knows? We barely speak to each other anymore. I'm so glad to be on Zoloft. I really has helped a ton. My question, if anyone can help, Is do I give her a time-frame to get moving out? I have lurked and read Native and Georgia Guys posts, which seem similiar to mine. WW has set herself up very well, as far as I can see. She hasn't gone crazy anymore. No late nights, spending time w/D5. I really have no "ammo" to say "leave"! I have disconnected from her so much, I am feeling a lot better about me. Yet, I still want us in the long haul. IC said I need to do something about this. I need to talk to WW soon (tonite?). My love is really slipping away for WW.