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I also posted on the Plan A/Plan B page but I think there are more people hanging here, so.... Here's a question that has been rolling round and round my brain lately. Rather than obsess and become anxious about it any more, I figured I'd simply ask those who know best - all of you. I have not seen my H (except for a split-second accidental driveby), or spoken with my H in seven months. He sends a one-sentence email to confirm when he's coming to see the dogs once a week. I am always gone during his visits. For those of you who haven't read my other posts, my H is living with another W and her 3 kids. She had a H, who moved out and she has now divorced. My H and I are legally separated and I'm bracing myself for word that he's seeking a D shortly so he can marry her. She's very manic, has major spending problems, and exhibits very inappropriate behavior in public. That's it in a nutshell. Having not had contact for seven months now, I'm almost afraid that it makes it too easy to forget what he's walked away from. He left, what he referred to, as his dream home and dream marriage (obviously it wasn't based on his actions, but he never let me in on his change of mind). Can the n/c thing actually make it easier on the betraying spouse to simply walk away and not look back? I'm having a case of nerves and would love to hear any thoughts/ideas you may have. Thanks -

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GS:

I am too screwed up myself to be giving anyone else advice, but I just wanted to let you know that you're not on here alone, that I read your post, and I know how you're feeling.

Keep your chin up,

Caren

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I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. yet I am as messed up as I can be.

It sounds like you are in a Plan B sitch right now. You don't have contact with him and it seems you're H is ok with that.

The ball is in your court..
I wish you the best and you are in my prayers.


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