Hi all,

It's been a long while since I've posted.
W came back home, A has ended. When she came back, I stuck to plan A. Doing all the right things. She seemed to acknowledge the changes I made and still making. She acted suprisingly well. At times. Then we bought a house. As I'm writing this, I'm looking at all the boxes. We moved in last monday.

But she's still not happy. Her sexual attraction for me has disappeared. It has been non-existent for almost 4 years. She's decided she cannot be married to a man she's not sexually attracted to, even though she loves me very much. Check out my post in the EN section:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=8;t=023572

What now? I still love her so much. I'm surprised I'm still sane at this moment, but it must be numbness... My whole world is falling apart and I have no future to look forward to without her.

I thank all you people for all those kind words and well meant advices.
Believer, Shmaley, Bob Pure, Orchid in the Infidelity section
Symphony of Life in the EN section.
And everyone else. Got to go now.

God bless...

I posted this in your other thread too.

Slapnuts said:
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She probably doesn't have any respect for you.

"It's ok, honey, if we don't have sex" or "If you have sex with other people, I'll forgive you"

I think you need to be a man and toss her out. Maybe then she won't think of you as a wussy doormat.
This happened to me. And I believe it is happening to you. I am still struggling to understand "exactly" why it is that my STBXW had so little respect for me. But I know this lack of respect has played an integeral role in her falling out of love. My STBXW once told me she knew I was going to cheat on her someday and didn't want me to tell her when I did. Wht a load of crap right? This was the only clue I was provided with that there had been an infidelity. For the record, I didn't figure it out until another had occured and STBXW was moving out. Sounds like she doesn't have any respect for me doesn't it. Well let me tell you, when your spouse doesn't respect you nothing good can come of it.

Ask yourself this question and let us know what you come up with. What does it take to get my W to respect me?

I want you to ask that question because it is apparent through her actions that she has no respect for you or your M. That "love you like a brother" stuff is ok for highschool but is really a load of crap. YOU DESERVE BETTER!

You have executed a good Plan A but where is your Plan B? Put your foot down with her before it is too late!

God Bless and Take Care

C.