Hi,

If I'm repeating a question that's been asked and answered please forgive me.

A brief sum-up. I just discovered (2 days ago) an EA my W had solely via e-mail without knowing his real name or talkiing by phone. Now she's broke it off. We're trying to work things out.

She's curious about this site that I'm looking at and writing on. I gave her the gist of what MB is about (we still need to finish the questionairre). I told her that she should look since it's not just about infidelity, but making marriage better and maybe she could post the problem from her perspective and get advice. I think this would help her, but my problem is I'm not completely comfortable writing things on here that she can read. I'm trying to be in giver mode right now, but I feel that this is a site where I can at least blow off a little of this built up steam without directing it at her. If she reads my posts it would be essentially like lashing out at her.

What to do?

Both of you should read "His Needs, Her Needs".

As far as her coming here, I wouldn't suggest it quite just yet. She's got a lot of things to think about & process.