It has been 2 1/2 months since Dday. OW is no longer preg. with H's child, and OW is getting a divorce. I have been willing from the begining to work things out, even when he told me she was preg. I still am. Things have been calm around the house the last few days. H told me last night that he was going to call about an apartment today. we have discussed him moving out a little. I guess he really means it now.

I have tried the plan A thing with no luck. He hasn't been willing to try. He continues to call her and take her calls and he goes to her house all the time. I have made it known how much this hurts me. I can no longer sit by and let him do this. I can't pretend that what he is doing is fine. I am no longer nagging him about all those things, but I can't ignore them.

I told him that if he moves out he has to make his decision. Me or her, and if he chooses me he has to stop all contact with her period. I also told him that I will have as little contact with him as possible while he is out of the house. I also let him know that I will not wait around forever. Although I love him more than anything in this world, I will not live my life in limbo. I am still young and I am still able to start over with someone else. Last night I wrote the plan B letter.

Here is my problem. H is due for a job transfer any time. I am living where I am now because of his job. We bought a mobile home for his job because he is trasfered every couple of years and the company pays to move it. If he is transfered and has still not said that we are over or come back home, do I go with him and the house to new town or not. I have no friends or family in the area we are in now, and I really don't like my job. I am only staying here because of him. I cannot afford to move the house to the area with friends and family.

Doing paln B here is going to be hard but it is easier for him to move out then me. If I did I would have to quit job, move back home. All I can think about is that it will be easier for him to be with her.They will live in the same town. What if he gets her preg. again. I don't want to make it easier foe the A to continue, but I can't take the constant pain anymore. We haven't slept in the same room since this happened (his choice not mine), we have our good days, but for the most part we are like roommates. What is the point of me continuing to fight if he is not going to try? I don't want to give up, but is it worth it?

Does anyone else feel this way? I