me and fww have been spending alot of time together lately. she came over saturday for 3-4 hrs, she came over sunday morning and went to church together, then we spent all day together. have talked on the phone nightly, we had lunch together yesterday and her best friend ended up showing up at the resturaunt we were eating at they also work together. i asked her if her friend knew she was eating w/ me. she said yes, well i asked what she said when she told her she said "why" and teri said we are getting along great and we will always be friends.

then last night we were talking and she said that she is happy with how things are now with us just being friends.
her and om have had nc for 2 mos. today is our 10th aniversery and i sent her flowers, they arrived 2 hrs ago no cal no e-mail no nothing.
she is supposed to come over for dinner tonight. i had planned on cooking steaks, but now im leaning toward hamburger helper.

im starting to think that her a was an exit affair and she justs wants out. any ideas

I think we all go through a period of wondering that, dalson...and I'll bet the WS believes it. I don't doubt the existance of an "exit affair", but you need to be careful here.

Does it really matter what kind of affair it was? Things seem to be on the right track for you...your Plan A seems to be having an effect. I'm not telling you to forget the past...but don't focus on what happened. Focus instead on what you're doing now and on your plan.

I feel guilty and regret some of the things that I have done..but there's nothing I can do about that now. I can only change the here and now..and therefore change the future. Point being...if you can stand it...I'd keep hanging on and see where this is going.

maddy
she just seems so happy w/o me.

I agree with Maddy, it doesn't matter what kind of A it was. It sounds like you are really on the right track. They all say they just want to be friends at some point, I know my H said that. Being friends is how we started to fall in love 9 years ago so to me becoming friends again is a good place to start. Keep up with it and I would bet the fellings of love will begin to return.

i read in another post about a thread pep wrote on how to flirt w/ww does anyone know where it is

dalson, be happy with just friends....

That is how much of this starts with. My W and I became friends then got M, then had kids.

You're plan seems to be working to me..

make steak tonight don't worry about why she has not called about the flowers.

You filled her love bank with that one.. Good job, if she is in the fog, she may not reply and fill you're love bank.

you have givin me good advice in this forum, don't know if I can do the same, however what is going on sounds great to me.. Keep it up, no LB's you are on a good path imho.

DALSON,

DID YOU MAKE THE STEAK OR THE HAMBURGER HELPER?

I sent my wife a love poem three weeks ago, she has never said a thing to me.

I am unable to understand what she wont let me understand.