I am so tired of all my WH lies and false attempts of recovery that I am throwing the towel on this marriage. It has been six months and I have no energies left.

Is it weird that I do want him to move in with OW and leave me alone. I do not want to be the one to worry where he is anymore, if he is lying again, having to deal with his mood swings, etc.

Yes, those checking my old postings will know that I have not followed a good Plan B. Actually none at all. 2 attempts and both failed at NC.

Last time was Dec 30th when he came up with a weird idea to get back together. I fell for it for the last time. The day after he went back to being same old WH. A few days after that OW called me to tell me WH spent time with her on Jan 2nd and they had sex, that he kept calling, etc.

When I found out about all that he asked me what I was going to do. I told him he would know when he got the divorce paper.

OH my Gosh! He begged like I have never seen him before. Came up with all excuses out there and I did not accepted a single one of them. From her following him, the devil being involved, praying to God, something about how could I think of Div and not think of our son, things I needed to change,etc. WOW! I heard them all that night! I have not called him since then! He called a couple of times. Today is the first time that I do not hear from him the whole day.

I am way beyond tired at this point. I just want peace in my life, take care of my baby and move on to a better life that we (baby and I) deserve.

I decided it will be a New Year, New Choices, New Life!

He is not getting it and I do not think he will ever get it.

OW emailed me that she will not be going anywhere. Whenever he looks for her in the future she will be there. WH changed his cell phone number that very same night and not even two days later she had the new number. Does not surprises me! I am over those two already. I think they deserve each other at this point.

Thanks for listening! Love

I know exactly how you are feeling. I too have decided it is time to throw in the towel on my marriage. It was a very hard decision to make, but I am sure it is the right decision. I cannot allow WH to continue to treat me this way. WH is on his 3rd A that I know of. I did not find out about the first two (one with a friend, one with a co-worker) until a couple of years ago when he revealed them two me. I really thought we could work it out, but I just found out he is again involved with someone else. I feel somewhat empowered at having discovered this one on my own. He does not realize I know anything. I have seen a lawyer and once I have proof of his current A I will serve him with papers. I can't go on this way. I am heartbroken about the situation, but realize I can do nothing to fix it. WH would not attempt to do anything to resolve our problems. So it's over. We have 2 kids (DD-13, DS-8). This is going to kill them. I cannot believe he is so selfish.

Just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

Thing is, now that you're done....now that you've taken all you can take from your WS...they'll now see that you're serious, that you're slipping through their fingers....now is when they'll do a 360 and want you back, I hope it's not too little too late.

-Caren

It is late for him.

WH told me that he knew he was at the end of the rope. I stopped him right there and told him " you do not get it, you were at the end of the rope last Thursday when you wanted me back and I let you in again. Now you have fallen in the hole. It's over. Too bad you thought I was going to keep forgiving you forever."

Time to move on!

Definitely too late for my WH. The OW has an STD and I'm not having anything to do with that! He even denied seeing someone a few months back with I have proof he's had contact for at least 5 months...about the time we started counseling. What a crock!

Time to move on...I second that!