Yeah, my WH acts like everythings all peachy with him too, he doesn't tell me that, but he also doesn't tell me he's UNhappy either, but he looks like hell. Sin'll do that to ya'!! On the flip side I'm looking pretty spiffy after the infidelity diet and all the new clothes, because well....I don't fit into the other ones, and of course, I am trying to look pretty all the time because you're supposed to be attractive to your spouse <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I think I'm probably kinda glowing as I'm doing the opposite of sinning <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Well you know, I sin, of course...but I'm not running around willy nilly sinning all over the place, knowing what I'm doing is wrong and not caring....yeah, that's the difference.

Yes, I'm a master debator (Not to be confused with masterbater LOL!!!!!!!!).

-Caren

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I was lucky in one sesne that I never had to debate when the right time to go to Plan B was. She filed on me. It was Plan B or Plan D. I still wan't to honor my marriage commitment, so I chose Plan B. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">TM-
It's still hard...kinda like a punch in the stomach...even if you know that it's coming...it still hurts.

Keep it up. It is not always easy to be the only one of a couple trying to honor marriage covenant!
LOL! Tina

Caren--Sorry typing bad...still laughing. Stomach hurting...pain in side!

Sometimes I think that we have parallel stories. I too am looking smaller...treadmill is a great way to work out emotions. Still moving down...but feeling much better. Wear makeup, dress nice...you know!

Sin has certainly aged my WH...I am actually having to work at staying dark when he looks so bad. Are you dealing with that "I want to help him!" drive? Yes...I admit it...healing is my spiritual gift...it is the co-dependancy I am trying to leave out of this.

Tina

How is it that y'all get to see your WS's if you are in Plan B? Aren't all interactions supposed to occur via an intermediary? Even delivering/picking up children? Am I confused?

TM

TM-

I'm not in Plan B yet, I am going to plan B this week. I thought I would do it tommorrow, but alas, I have to have my WH pick up DD10 from school on Thursday (no one else to do it) and I would have to pick her up from his shop, so I have re-set the date to be Sunday, that way I can go to church, and gain some strength from that.

I'm scared....really scared about doing it. I know I have the strength to do it, and I've prayed about it, and I know that God has given me my answer, that, this is indeed the right thing to do. But I don't really fight with my WH, I don't ask him any questions, therefore nothing to fight with him about. But knowing that I'm just allowing him to be with the OW is starting to take it's toll on me, and I've got to remove myself if I want to keep my sanity, and keep any hope of saving this marriage.

I pray for the strength to keep no contact, and I will be posting, trying always to gain perspective and get direction. The folks at MB never fail me.

-Caren

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by TravellinMan:
<strong> How is it that y'all get to see your WS's if you are in Plan B? Aren't all interactions supposed to occur via an intermediary? Even delivering/picking up children? Am I confused?

TM </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes you are correct TM...everything goes thru an intermediary...I haven't seen my WH in over 5 weeks! he has tried calling several times, but I havent' picked up the phone...It does get easier and easier in Plan B! I am at peace now!

TM- You are correct...I believe that all communication is supposed to be through a mediator. But this just hasn't worked out!

I am in Plan B. I have been for about a month. Unfortunately, I have not been able to go 100% through a mediator. Unfortunately, often I have to transport DD. However, I am emotionally dark as much as possible...OK I admit I did wish him happy birthday...but I didn't even think about getting him anything, not even a Hallmark!

I will say that times when I go without seeing him are much better. That is opposite of how I felt on Plan A. I am so much more at peace these days..not at ease...but at peace.

I did have to change visitation. I was having to interact to frequently.
Tina