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#1253327 01/09/05 03:20 PM
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My dear Tracy,

My love for you has never faded, yet grown every day I have been blessed to be with you. The world I have shared with you has been made brighter by you're presence, as you have opened my eye's to a world I was not aware of.

However, you have made me aware of some short falls in me as you're husband. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for making me aware of them. I have started a course of action to work on me as a person, as I need to work on me first in order to work on us.

You have told me many times you are proud of me for what I have been doing and I thank you for that.

However we have come to a fork in the road. And at this time we most make a choice, I have made mine.

I am no longer able to stand by and watch as you continue to chose a path that is not productive to us or our family. The continued contact with **** has pushed me to the point of saying thank you for all we have shared, yet at this time I must stop seeing you as the pain I continue to feel is overwhelming. From this point on any contact will be through Aunt ******.

If you decide in the future you would like to invest in us and our family I am with you 100% as my love for you will never end. In the meantime I wish you the best in all you do.

As for the girls, please contact my Aunt to arrrange a schedule of visits.

In closing, always remember that you have three people that love you and wish for you to come home.

Alan.

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Be specific in a few areas...

Recall a particular warm, loving past event you shared. And write one sentence about it.

Better be specific about she is not to contact you at ALL ....not phone, email, letter.... unless it is a life and death emergency she is to go through your aunt every time.

Have you discussed this with your aunt??

Pep

<small>[ January 09, 2005, 02:31 PM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

#1253329 01/09/05 03:34 PM
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Yes I have talked to my Aunt about this. She is behind the family 100%.

That is a rough draft of my Plan b letter. How specific should I be?

I realy don't ever want to give it to my WW.

I want her to come home to us. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
I want her to come home to us only if she is completely finished with her affair forever. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I edited your last sentence to make a point.

YOU be tough now so this affair has a chance to end sooner.... YOU know more about affairs than your WW does at this point.

USE your knowledge to benifit the family.

Pep (I can't french braid either ... it always looks messy when I do it)

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Alan-

Holding my breath & crossing my fingers for ya hon!

-Caren

P.S.- I can french braid like there's no tommorrow (I have 3 girls) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by alank:
<strong> My dear Tracy,

My love for you has never faded, yet grown every day I have been blessed to be with you. The world I have shared with you has been made brighter by you're presence, as you have opened my eye's to a world I was not aware of. Remember Taho, or Punta Canna, time i will cherish such as the baptisim of the girls.

However, you have made me aware of some short falls in me as you're husband. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for making me aware of them. I have started a course of action to work on me as a person, as I need to work on me first in order to work on us.

You have told me many times you are proud of me for what I have been doing and I thank you for that.

However we have come to a fork in the road. And at this time we most make a choice, I have made mine.

I am no longer able to stand by and watch as you continue to chose a path that is not productive to us or our family. The continued contact with **** has pushed me to the point of saying thank you for all we have shared, yet at this time I must stop seeing you as the pain I continue to feel is overwhelming. From this point on any contact will be through Aunt ******.

If you decide in the future you would like to invest in us and our family I am with you 100% as my love for you will never end. In the meantime I wish you the best in all you do.

As for the girls, please contact my Aunt to arrrange a schedule of visits.

In closing, always remember that you have three people that love you and wish for you to come home when you are finished with this affair.

Alan. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

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Picking nits, but fix these spelling errors:

"...brighter by you're presence..."

Should be "your"

"...opened my eye's to a world..."

Should be "eyes"

"...in me as you're husband."

Should be "your"

"...time we most make..."

Should be "must"

<small>[ January 09, 2005, 03:16 PM: Message edited by: Sad Tiger ]</small>

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Sppelling has never been my strong point. I have a receptionist that does all of that for me. I will fix the errors. Thank you.


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