My mother in law totally blew me away the other day. She was so in my corner, backing me up and out of nowhere she accuses me of sleeping with her boyfriend. She says that when he met me and my dd at our familys christmas party that she could "tell he recognized me" and that he told her that he slept with me and that i had my dd with me. She said all kinds of hurtful things to me like she knows im lying that this man,(who shes known for a whole month) would never lie to her and i better prove to her im telling the truth.she said shes going to "investigate" this manner, and the only reason she doesnt tell my H is that she doesnt want him to end up in jail for killing me like i deserve. I got pissed and told her i shouldnt have to prove anything to her, if thats the way she felt she could investigate all she wants, but when she found out it wasnt true not to tell me shes sorry cause i would never forgive her for what she said to me and that i was telling my H. She said good, tell him where you were. So I told H and he blew up.He got on the phone with his mom wanting the guys # and adress but she wont give it to him. she says hes not lying and i am. that hes the best thing thats ever happened to her and were not going to mess things up.I cried for days over this, with wh comforting me, promising hes gonna get to the bottom of this. yesterday sil called my h to tell him "well SOMETHING must have happened because dd ran from the room crying the minute he came in and when he seen your wife he turned white". first of all, all my dd did was run in and out of bedrooms all nite cause she was talking to her friends and didnt want to be at the party anyway, second dd was crying later that nite because shes spoiled and didnt get what she wants for xmas.and sil didnt see dd do any of this anyways thats what mil is telling everyone and they think "oh well then it must have been what happened." Wh walks around like hes gonna blow up. MIL is in hiding with this guy, "supposedly she doesnt want my h to kill him". she wont let us question him. I feel awful. How can someone do this to another person? <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

shelly....

Wow!!!! Sounds like both of us have wacky In-laws. LOL!
That's awful!!!! What on earth made her think you would sleep with her boyfriend? Some people are just CRAZY!!!!!!

My MIL is a compulsive liar and what gets me is that my WH knows this but now believes everything she tells him. I think that's because he caught her disease.

I would distance myself from you MIL. I've been doing that with mine......

I dont know what would make her think that. MIL has been thru infidelity herself where her XH knocked up some other chick, she went crazy where she hid in the attic for 2 days not eating or drinking and when they found her she had to be hospitalized.she refused any attempts at reconciliation and has had a very hard life since. MIL loves her sons above all else and I had said I was thinking about divorce. I cant think of why she would try to destroy whats left of my marriage though.

Goodness....sounds like maybe she's having some sort of mental breakdown or something. Is that a possibility???

I think my MIL is mentally ill but refuses to see a doc. and her kids all make excuses for her. She is down right evil sometimes. She tells her grandkids the craziest things. She told my niece
one time that she was dead to her. She got mad at my ex-SIL and took it out on my niece. She does this stuff all the time. Lies constantly. Everyone who knows her can't stand her. They call her all kinds of names..."dragonlady" is a popular one. LOL!
I think she's more like and army sergeant.

I would seriously stay wawy from your MIL right now!!!

I want to stay away. She did something like this before a long time ago she said that her boyfriend of the time,(who is younger than me and took all her money that she got from her settlement with her xh) seen me driving some car that wasnt mine and that translated to i was having an affair. My bil's xw told me when she would try to call me if i didnt answer, it was because i was hiding some man in the house. I do think shes mentally ill and she needs help. She takes all kinds of pills, it just really hurt me, all those things she said. she called me and my dd whores.

The only thing I can thankfully say is at least my H doesnt believe it. He said I know you inside and out, she's hiding because she cant back up what shes saying, Im the one who messed up not you. She never did like the fact that he put me first, ahead of her, she thinks she owns her sons.

My MIL also thinks she owns her son's and daughter. She has always wanted to control their lives! She was always butting into our life. Me and WH fought over it many times. He knows how she is and that's why I'm so surprised that he believes her over me. I just don't get it!!!!
His entire family is screwed up and I alwayd thought that he was differnt. I guess he proved me wrong huh? He's just like the rest of the nuts!!!!!

I think it frightens me more than anything that he just MIGHT believe her.

Aren't in-laws fun? Mine doesn't make up anything, but she's constantly on the verge of a supposed mental breakdown. When all this was first going on, I called her and talked to her, after which she had a talk with my WH and told him he needed to "**** or get off the pot" (Real nice, eh?), she also told him that she just couldn't deal with our problems and that I had caused a RASH to break out on her hand by calling her and discussing this with her.

I have talked to her 2 other times in the last 6 months, once to call and ask her why on earth with everything that is going on does she NEVER call my DD, I mean to make sure she's doing okay or something. She said "Ummm what's your #?" I said "My number has been the same ever since you've known me...." She took it down again....still never dialed it though. Now she's decided it be a really stellar idea to LIE to my daughter about her father's whereabouts, she actually took it upon herself, because she didn't consult my husband, when I talked to him he didn't know what I was talking about...I said "Oh nice, you're Mom is lying to our daughter for you..."

The really amusing thing is she always complained about how my WH lied. He had a huge problem with it when he was younger, and still will do it when you back him into a corner. He didn't really lie to me much, I would always find out when he did, and it was always something retarded. He knows I feel very strongly about not being lied to, and I think even to this day he "tries" not to lie to me, he just prefers not to tell me anything.

-Caren

My mil has been "dying" for the last 20 years. Everytime shes backed into a corner faced with her actions or lies she starts with "im having a heartattack" or "do you want me to die? leave me alone!" I cant believe how fast ALL my inlaws turned on me. I think they really believed i would divorce wh and of course they will back up my H 1000%. He's been changing though. I feel his recent actions are genuine, cant explain how i know.

Good for you hon <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

My WH would still defend me any day of the week....at least I have that.

-Caren

Me too. Arent you the one who said her wh wanted her to be a crazy cat lady? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> as upset as i am that and reading Tree's STBXH's crazy emails and his "xanax letter" gave me a good laugh, i suppose i should thank him for being insane?

Shelly...
LOL! My WH has made a lot of people on here laugh huh? If he only knew the amusement he was providing with all of his crazy emails.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

He's just so FOGGED it kills me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh crap, it just got worse. Now its he PAID me for sex while my dd was up in the attic getting drunk. I feel sick right now. Why doesnt she face me and H? She tells the whole family this crap, they believe her, and she hides. Shes driving me nuts! I cant believe shes calling me a hooker! Shes known me for 15 years, and she believes some jerk shes known for a month?

Im sorry tree, but his spiritual mumbo jumbo (which i dont understand because didnt he say he didnt believe in God?) His conviction that its the TERM divorce that will hurt your son, and his "magic letter" that will take away all your pain that hes waiting for just the right time to give it to you,(when will that be by the way?) is just some of the strangest bunch of doggie doo i have ever read. Maybe insanity runs in the family? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I also liked someones post that your engaged to be divorced.I just shake my head when i read his emails to you.