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Today was a bad day. I was really bogged down in adult problems...
Sick kids, trying to sell some marital assets, trying to figure out WTF regarding WW's strange behaviour over the weekend (don't know why I bother), hoping she's coming out of the fog(don't know why I bother with this), wondering whether she's still seeing OM, thinking of revenge vs. OM... etc...
But when I finally did get my kids to sleep I found them all sleeping in my bed, cuddled together, cute as angles and it made all of the above crap just disappear. I don't know what I would do without them... they are my world!
Miker
PS. Not sure where I'm sleeping tonight but I don't really care :-)
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aren't kids the best reality check there is? They are so sweet and innocent, yet caught up in a torrid adult mess... Sad really.
I too have my three little ones currently "camping out" on the bedroom floor. My youngest who will be two on Saturday wanted to sleep with his bothers instead of in his own room in his crib, so they all brought their pillows and blankies and are snuggled in together on the floor, each of them with one hand holding a Spiderman figure, and the other hand on one of his brothers. Sweet really.
I am sorry you are having troubles with your WW Miker. I hear you with the sick kids, and trying to trust your spouse. I struggle with that daily. I do not know how you stay so strong.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you Miker.
Also on where to sleep- get your PJ's on (or if you sleep in your underwear throw on a pair of cotton shorts and crawl in to bed with your three angels and sleep like a baby!
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> But when I finally did get my kids to sleep I found them all sleeping in my bed, cuddled together, cute as angles and it made all of the above crap just disappear. I don't know what I would do without them... they are my world! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WOW!!! What a great testimony! Kids are truly a blessing. My DD brings such pure joy to my life on a daily basis. I cannot imagine what my life would be like without her. The hardest thing to understand is how my WS can leave her, with only visitation.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Not sure where I'm sleeping tonight but I don't really care :-) </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hold on to that picture when you get overwhelmed. What a blessing! Tina
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Yes, crawl into bed with your kids. Sounds nice. But I don't agree with "crawl in to bed with your three angels and sleep like a baby" as mentioned above. If your kids are like mine there is no sleeping. Too much kicking.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Miker: <strong> Today was a bad day. I was really bogged down in adult problems...
Sick kids, trying to sell some marital assets, trying to figure out WTF regarding WW's strange behaviour over the weekend (don't know why I bother), hoping she's coming out of the fog(don't know why I bother with this), wondering whether she's still seeing OM, thinking of revenge vs. OM... etc...
But when I finally did get my kids to sleep I found them all sleeping in my bed, cuddled together, cute as angles and it made all of the above crap just disappear. I don't know what I would do without them... they are my world!
Miker
PS. Not sure where I'm sleeping tonight but I don't really care :-) </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This just made me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> - nice uplifting post Miker. You have so much more than you think. Someone's sitiation is always worse, so look at those beautiful angels and thank the big guy upstarirs for at least giving you these three to help you through and give you perspective.
Cheers <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Wow. I am in tears! (I am such a baby for things like this) Chilren are so amazing! I just crumble when my kids say "I love you always Mom" It is such a wonderful feeling.
No matter what WH does, my children can always make me smile <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Bless your children, they are Gods gifts!
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Miker I know exactly what you mean.
My kids were the reason I fought like a tiger for our M instead of kicking out Squids butt NOT out of desperation but out of a desire to do all I can to have the BEST situation for my babies.
Be strong for them, mate. And love them.
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miker,
It seems that I am forever telling and hearing from my friends and family "at least there aren't any children". Your poignant story, besides bringing tears to my eyes, made me aware of the incredible source of strength that they can provide.You are truly blessed twofold, by having these angels in your life AND recognizing that no matter what your WW lies about,she just can't "spin" your children's love for you.
Thank's for sharing your moment of love and clarity.
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Cymanca,
You hit the point. I think children are so awesome and I admire anyone who is a father or mother to such beautiful little angels. I do not have any children, but it's one of my biggest dreams to someday be a Mom. I do believe that they provide strength and support, even during the darkest times. I only have a little dog, but when I curl up with him, it makes everything feel so much better. I would love to raise a child someday and introduce him/her to the big world out there.
Miker, I know that you are sad and in a lot of pain, but you also have one of the greatest gifts right there tucked into their beds - your beautiful children.
Everything will be alright.
Kati
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Cymanca: <strong> miker,
It seems that I am forever telling and hearing from my friends and family "at least there aren't any children". Your poignant story, besides bringing tears to my eyes, made me aware of the incredible source of strength that they can provide.You are truly blessed twofold, by having these angels in your life AND recognizing that no matter what your WW lies about,she just can't "spin" your children's love for you.
Thank's for sharing your moment of love and clarity. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
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I don't know where I'd be without my kids. They aren't really in the cute, cuddly angel stage anymore but it doesn't matter. They are my biggest supporters and helpers. They keep me strong and together.
My DD sleeps with me every night. She's going through a stage where she doesn't like to sleep alone. Since she feels like her father has abandoned her, she wants close contact. In fact, even though I have a king sized bed, she's practically glued to me. It's not going to last but she needs it now and I appreciate the warmth.
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Miker, I am with you on this one.
My girls are the highlight of my every day.
Feel blessed with you're kids and curl up all you can with them. It soothes you're heart when you need it the most. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Thank you all for your kind words. Yes my children are a huge source of comfort and strength for me during this difficult time.
Also knowing there are other people out there (that's you MBers) who feel the same way I do also gives me strength and hope.
Here's to you!
Miker
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Hi Miker,
I agree about children.I have always felt that they are angels here on Earth.My two girls are the only reason I fought back from the brink of suicide.I know now that my WH wasn't worth killing myself over but at the time,that never crossed my mind,only that I wanted the pain to stop.They will never know that they saved their mom's life on the worst day of her life.
I love them so very much and I love being around them,they make me smile and give me many reasons to keep on living and living well.I truly feel blessed that they are mine.Thank you God!
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Miker, OG & others.
Just spoke to my Squid before her bedtime and she told me that Dan, my youngest 'little angel' tied a 'hogsbreath saloon' bandana to our dumb Border Collie's neck, and has been calling him Lassie all day. The dog tries to bite it, but can't quite reach which is also funny it seems !
Thats gotta be worth a photo !
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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