Before H left for work this afternoon he made the request that I be in "something sexy- maybe that red lace piece" when he gets home tonight. SO I am on here trying to kill time, as H does not get off until after midnight and won't be home for half an hour after that. I get up at 5:30, and am really tired. Would it be a LB to not honor his request of waiting up for him in what he requested- as I have already had coffee, and it is not helping, or do you think I could pull off being "sleeping beauty"?- basically wear what he wants, but be asleep?

Yes I know this is a REALLY STUPID question, especially in the whole skeam of my relationship, and the enormacy of my problems, this is nothing- however it was still a request of his, and I am trying to do what is right. I really want to crawl into bed in my cute capri and tank top, and sleep~ however do not want to hurt his feelings. Suggestions please.

For what it is worth, I admire you for even having an interest in satisfying his request. Something I have never gotten.

Hmmm,

For tonight, if you agreed to do this..then I think you should honor your own word.

In the future, I would give pause before agreeing, to consider whether it is doable.

In the future, if you have agreed, rather than kill time until he gets home, I would catnap from the time my kids went to bed until about 30 mins before he got home [to wake up and freshen up]. That'd give you about 4 hrs give or take and should not leave you overly tired.

I have done this many times, and those late night moments of undisturbed recreation are priceless. it's just a schedualing prob if both people are willing to make it so.

Noodle

That is a good point Noodle. And a good plan- little late now to impliment however. I did not agree to do it, he just left it as a suggestion, which I will try to honor. I recorded Las Vegas and will go watch it in a few minutes, and that should keep me awake hopefully until H gets home. I just took a shower to wake me back up, and to clean me up- however I put on the cute pink Capri Pants and Pink tank top- it is Minnesota ya know- it is COLD outside.... i will change later. Would candles be over the top? Do guys even like those? Anticipation- I tell ya- is have the fun.

Depends on the guy.

My H loves the set up..loves to be romanced.

Some would be irritated that they can't see you naked as well as they could with a 100 watt bulb directly overhead <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Could go either way. If he doesn't object, and candles make you feel good..then light em up.

Noodle

R U going t/b Sleeping Beauty or L'il Red Riding Hood?

L.

KMEJ,

The more important question, at this point, is how you plan to deal with the Vikings playoff loss to the Eagles on Sunday. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I know this post is from last night....just wondered if all went well <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

-Caren

Caren- Last night did not go well. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I waited up for H until around 12:30- when he was not home, and no call was made to say he was running late, I decided to go to sleep. When I woke up this morning I found H next to me, TV on, Glasses still on, and his clothes still on....
Then I went downstairs and saw his friends shoes and knew, KNEW that I was blown off for his friend YET AGAIN! When I called him later in the morning to tell him that I was hurt he acted like I did something to him, and got all upset saying that I want him to have no life what so ever and that all he should do is go to work and that is it. I calmly just reminded him that last night was his idea, he claims I did not wake uo for him- like he tried- he was home late, and had a friend with him! He said I was not interested.... I asked him what I was wearing, and then asked if he really believed what he was saying- he handed the phone to the baby... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Now I am home- been home for half an hour, no H to be found- but friends car still in driveway.

Why oh why to I let myself get worked up only to get let down???????

Andrew- thanks for the vote of confidance. The Vikings made me proud of them last weekend, and no matter what the out come of Sunday's game I will still be proud. WE almost beat them earlier in the season, and they do not have Terrel Owens, so we have a shot!!

kmej

i dont know what to say, except he is a selfish ba$[censored], who doesnt deserve to breath the same air as you

Wait a minute...

Your H asks you - a good-looking woman who is far too-eager to please him - to wear something sexy for him when he comes home...and he blows you off?

There is seomthign seriously wrong with this man, KMEJ. Are you sticking to your March deadline for him to shape up?

Yeah he asked me to wear something sexy- so I took a shower, used my really pretty smelling body wash, basically did the whole ball of wax, drank coffee to stay awake for him, even um- gave him a prelude before he left for work- (OS) and I got nothing but greif. I am just curious if he is a rare breed or if many a men do this kind of thing...

Yeah March sounds about right... however I have been having more and more thoughts lately. I am just so tired of sitting idle while he does as he pleases. I am tired of being alone in a marriage. I am tired of his friends coming first.

H just got home, they took Michael and went bowling. H came in said Hello, asked about my day (which he never does- must know he is in trouble) then walked away and is presently playing Cribage with his friend, and has to leave for work in 45 minutes... So much for time for me. And we have the boys' birthday party here this weekend, and so far he has done nothing to help.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by KMEJ:
<strong> Yeah he asked me to wear something sexy- so I took a shower, used my really pretty smelling body wash, basically did the whole ball of wax, drank coffee to stay awake for him, even um- gave him a prelude before he left for work- (OS) and I got nothing but greif. I am just curious if he is a rare breed or if many a men do this kind of thing...

Yeah March sounds about right... however I have been having more and more thoughts lately. I am just so tired of sitting idle while he does as he pleases. I am tired of being alone in a marriage. I am tired of his friends coming first.

H just got home, they took Michael and went bowling. H came in said Hello, asked about my day (which he never does- must know he is in trouble) then walked away and is presently playing Cribage with his friend, and has to leave for work in 45 minutes... So much for time for me. And we have the boys' birthday party here this weekend, and so far he has done nothing to help. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sounds very frustrating and lonely.

On the birthday party, what is it you've asked him to do?

TB

what is OS
he11 what is SF

are you sure he is straight.
if my w ever offered my buddys had to wear my footprint on there butts for a week after i got done kicking them out the door

K,

Are you sure the OW isn't back in the picture - or that there isn't another one?

Dalson, go up to the Emotional Needs section and click on Welcome to MB, etc. thread. That thread is there to help new members understand all the appreviations etc. It will help you understand what is being said and is WELL worth your time.

that was a joke <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I had this legnthly reply, and my internet shut off, so much for DSL!

Dalson- os is oral sex, SF is Sexual fullfillment. Hope that helps buddy!

I have questioned myself as to if H might be attacted to the same sex. He says everything is does not like is "Gay", makes me think that he might be over compensating something that he is trying to hide.

As far as the birthday party, I have asked him to wrap the presents (2 of our boys birthday) and either put away the 2T clothes and pack up the smaller ones, or clean out the toy room. As well as take down the Christmas tree- which he wants to leave up. Basically help get stuff ready. If he does the above that leaves me with 4 bathrooms, and every other room in the house, cooking, decorateing 2 spiderman cakes, shopping for all the ingrediants, and so on. I am not asking that much when 2 days he has only 1 kid and he is usually napping.

I am just dissappointed in H for last night. Is this typical of a WS to treat their BS in (so called) recovery like this???

Ha ha Dalson- i get it now, you are not getting OS and SF anymore, so you are trying to remember what it is right? GOt it, that was good, you had me too!