I got called by my DS14's school that he had some kind of siezure, and he was headed to the hospital this afternoon.

All of his tests (blood, urine, CT Scan) came back OK so far, they are keeping him overnight for observation, please pray for him.

I called WW and she came to the hospital, she started to argue, at a low tone with me regarding the D, but I told her I didn't want to discuss it there, my only concern was our son.

She made a few comments throughout the day (we were together at his side for 6 hours), one of which was she knew I hired a lawyer. She called the same firm, and they told her they couldn't represent her, cause they represented me.

When she asked me why we couldn't just hire a mediator, and do it the easy way, I calmly reminded her that I was only interested in protecting our kids, and since just about everything shed has told me since d-day was a lie, I couldn't take any chances. I also reminded her that I never wanted ANY of this, and that everything happening now was not my choice.

I tried real hard not to LB, and we even shared a few laughs about when she used to work in a hospital. I did tell her how much it hurt to see her never take any time off from work since d-day to go to any of DS's Dr. appts, yet she took a whole day off yesterday to spend with OM & his kids. She tried to rationalize it, but I didn't want to argue, so I said that's fine.

By the end of the evening, when our son was being set up in his room for the night, she was actually behaving like the caring mother that I love SOOOOOO much, but I can't help wonder if that isn't just because she knows I have an attorney, and she is worried about custody. She did try to say that she is in no way an unfit mother, again I didn't argue, I merely reminded her that this was not the time nor the place.

I guess if she gets served tomorrow before I see her again things will be quite different, but I will not let her, or OM hurt our kids anymore.

Please pray for God to give me the strength and His peace.

Thanks,

<small>[ January 13, 2005, 03:23 PM: Message edited by: Hosea_2004 ]</small>

I'll be praying for you and your family.

Keep up the "not the time or place"..it is a very good boundary.

Prayers and best hopes for you and your son. Did he get an EEG yet? That will be probably very important to get in the morning before discharge.

Prayers for your son and for you.

CC

Dear Hosea,

Prayers for you and your son will be sent. I am proud of the way you handled yourself in the hospital. It is evident isn't it that she still is going to try and rationalize her actions.

You are getting smarter at this babble stuff and did just fine in your responses.

You are a good father and H. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

take care,
L.

Hosea,

My prayers are with you and your son. Sorry if this is an assumption but did your son have these types of problems before the A? I am curious because my D12 has a lot of anxiety related problems since d-day. This crap is so hard on the whole family and there always seems to be one child (at least) that takes it harder than others (and the problem manifests itself in odd ways.)

I may be totally out of line, but I was just wondering. I hope all goes well and your son gets a definitive diagnosis so that everything can be taken care of.

Take care.

Suzanne

Hosea -

You and your family are in my prayers. Please be sure to let us know how he is when you can.

FIM

Poor little one....(OK not sooo little...)

hope he is well...does he feel OK?
Grand Mal...??

did he get hurt???

don't don't don't don't don't rise to any of her baiting......

don't engage...

ARK

Hosea: You handled yourself well in the face of adverse conditions. You may not get the results you want in the end, but do not let that deter you from trying. In the end you'll be a better person. Hopefully, your W will see that before it's too late. Prayers and hugs to you and your family.

{{{{{Hosea}}}}}

I will keep your family in my prayers. You seem to be doing really, despite the situation.
Danielle

Keeping your family in my prayers. Take care of yourself.

My prayers are with you and your family. It must be very hard to go through all of this stress. Please take good care of yourself.

Hi Hosea,

I would also like to say that you did a fine job of being in control and not falling into your WW's trap at the hospital.That is a very inappropriate time to be discussing anything but the well being of your son,not the D,OM,nothing like that.

Do keep us posted on how your son is doing.You and your family will be in my prayers too.

O

Hosea, prayers for your family.

I'm impressed with how you kept your cool, sounds like you are really protecting the kids. Well done.

KY

i too will say a prayer for your son and your entire family.

DS is home now, still not positive what caused this, or what it even was fir certain, he had a small eposide in the hospital this A.M. but it only lasted a few moments.

We will meet with his psychologist tomorrow, and try to get to the root cause. I suspect it was caused by a trigger to e very traumatic event that happened to him 2 years ago, the trigger coupled with the stress of the impending D of his parents, and his anger were probably too much to bear.

Called WW when we got home, she said she wanted to take kids out to dinner, I told her that I would love for her to do that, but DS doesn't need any additional stress, and therefore I asked her that she not have OM involved. WW was quiet for a moment then said "fine". I am going to trust her this time, and hope that this will give her a chance to mend some fences with her kids, and maybe see what she has been doing to them.

I know I am taking a risk, but I cannot help it, and if she lied to me then it will be yet another strike against her with the judge (if it gets that far). I will ask my kids to call me if OM shows up, and I will immediately pick them up. I could give DD a cell phone and tell her to not let anyone know she has it & only use it in case OM shows up, but then I think that is too much pressure on her. or should I just follow them from a distance, and spy for OM, I know his vehicle, he might not know I know.

Or am I just being paranoid?

Give your children the. Think about getting them one anyway.....

Let them know they can call you if they do not feel comfortable with any sitch, esp where OM is involved.

That's not pressure that's support. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

JMHO,
L.