Congratulations on the new job. It sounds perfect. He failed, not you. You can only change yourself, not other people. You cannot force him to behave, you can only set limits for yourself and the kids. What he has been doing is very damaging to the children and to you and your marriage. He is thinking only of his happiness, his wants and needs. He is not thinking of his children or you. Yes, this is actually going to be better for you than the last year and a half. You have the law on your side, your know where you are going, and he knows what to do if he wants to follow and TRY to win his family back.
Faith, I wasn't even married at your age, there are many single good guys out there, but really, you don't need anyone. I wonder what your H would think of the new man in your life someday, the one that your son will call dad and your daughters will love. Really though, you don't ever have to marry again if you don't want to. You have a new career, you have your kids and it sounds like you have friends. I don't think you can run fast enough to escape though, you are too good a catch.
Dork will be sorry, of that I am sure. I also know that his relationship with the OW is soon to be ending if not already. It is doomed.
You are growing as a person. I saw the flick the withches of eastwick the other night, there is a scene where Jack N. talks about women who divorce, how they bloom. That is you. He says that men only bloom in marriage, how true.
Hugs to you. Keep up the good work.
<small>[ February 10, 2005, 02:47 PM: Message edited by: new jersey ]</small>
