Bear with me guys - but is there a page I can go to to find out what all of the abv's mean?

STBX ?

BS? - I can tell you what the 1st thing that popped into my mind was - but I don't think that's what it means <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Plan A?

Plan B?

ETC.......

Can someone clue me in ?

Here's the link to the abbreviations:
abbreviations from the JFO site

As for plan A and B, read up in the concepts area. Then get ahold of Surviving an Affair and His needs/Her needs.

Then come back and post your questions. Remember these plans are to help the BS. Most WS act like azzez while the BS is in plan A that's why plan B is usually needed shortly thereafter. Don't stay too long in plan A (it is tiring to keep a smile on your face 24/7 <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ). You will not fix the WS in these plans all the time. These plans are to help the BS regain the strength and stance to have a good personal recovery. Then later if marital recovery becomes an option (due to WS turning into an Xws or spouse), then these plans will benefit even your spouse.

Hope this helps.
L.

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