I've been around the site for a few weeks, I know my situation is not unique. But, I have such a hard time with the conflicting statements/actions of my WH.
He repeatedly tells me that he loves me and always will, he'll always make sure I am taken care of. He says if he can't be happy with me, then he probably can't be happy with anyone (he thinks he's "wired different" than most people).
We still have sex, although he keeps telling me that it must stop, because I'm getting the wrong impression. (That was one of our problems. Since this all started I've worked on it, and am more in touch with what turns me on. I have not been forcing it, the sexual desire is just greater than it ever was).
Monday I must have hit an emotional wall, I cried all day and night and just couldn't stop. He came to bed to sleep with me and held me. He just kept saying that he cares deeply for me, and it's killing him that he can't return the feelings.
The physical aspect of his A definately seems over, think there's still an emotional attachment.

Any words of wisdom????

MCB,

Time is all I can tell you and NC must be established. He needs to completely end the A to start finding his feelings for you again. I feel for you, it is very hard. Have you asked for a NC letter to be sent? ARe you two in MC? Sorry not too familiar with your sitch, just heard your sorrow in your post.

no, there's not a NC letter. We're still "together", have 2 young children together and 3 step kids between us, and his mother lives with us. He (37) also works with the OW (19), and the owner is aware of the situation, but all he'll do is transfer the twit under someone else. My WH is her boss. I wish he would just find another place to work. At this point, I can't make him do anything. He just keeps telling me it's fizzling out and to "let me take care of it".