My Goodness!

I just logged on here started thinking about what TODAY Is.......
1). Its Friday
2). Its start of 3 day weekend (at least for our kids)
3). The playoffs (NFL) are this weekend
4). There is a Back up on the local highway home from wife's work

And then it "HITS" me........
Today is 2 years post D-day!! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I mean I had to actually LOOK <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> at the date to make sure I was right.

Don't know if its good or Bad that it's taken me until after 4:00pm (eastern) to have my self actually realize this........but it is what it is.

So to any of you out there "struggling" with all the Triggers, ghosts, dates and memories.......take it from me, if you Hang In There it DOES take a back seat at some point and Your LIFE takes back over. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Don't get me wrong.......I still think about the A (in some shape, manner or form) EVERYDAY...... (No, I didn't stutter...that WAS Everyday).

However, it HAS Lost its addictive / obsessive Hold Over me.

Anyway just wanted to share this as I truly ONLY thought about it being D-day by logging into this Site.
WoW! Never thought that this would happen 2 years ago.

And the best part is there is NO Trigger from this. Imagine that?

I am not down because of it.

In fact, its mostly Just Another day.

(With that said......I still think I'll have a few beers tonight). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Hope you all enjoy your weekend!

<small>[ January 14, 2005, 03:37 PM: Message edited by: top rope ]</small>

i am only 3 months in, but thanks for the encouraging report.

congrats! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> arjdad

Wow, today must be the day for anniversaries. It's 9 months since our d-day!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Don't get me wrong.......I still think about the A (in some shape, manner or form) EVERYDAY...... (No, I didn't stutter...that WAS Everyday).

However, it HAS Lost its addictive / obsessive Hold Over me </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Same here!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And the best part is there is NO Trigger from this. Imagine that?

I am not down because of it.

In fact, its mostly Just Another day.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I told my husband that last night!!! It's getting to be like any other day!

Congrats Top Rope. I don't know if you are the BS or the FWS but either way it's a cause for a couple of celebratory beers!!!

Top rope,

Good to know what to look forward to. It has been 8 months since my Dday and I think I can see where you are up there ahead of me.

We seem to be heading that way.

Thanks TR,

k

Top Rope! That was great, wasn't it? Getting through almost the entire day before you realize.... whoa.... almost missed it! You've just arrived at one of the great milestone markers on Recovery Road.

~ Snow

<small>[ January 14, 2005, 05:23 PM: Message edited by: Snowbelle ]</small>

Hiya TR,

I am glad to hear that you are doing well 2 years post DDay.Lucky.I wasn't so fortunate but I always like to hear about a "happy ending"!

Cheers! To recovery for you and your FWW! Have one on me.

O <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ January 14, 2005, 05:35 PM: Message edited by: Octobergirl ]</small>

TR, thanks for your posting. I am approaching the first year ann of D-day...March 11. I have been thinking about it alot and how I will be....your post help me to know that it will get better....I can't wait to have time and love help me to conquer the power of the d-day. xWH and I are working hard to get to where you are at. Thanks for your post and continued progress on living your life and making the A just another bump in the road. Thanks, ss <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hey Top Rope...

Sorry I missed this post. I haven't been online much, we have had a lot going on.

I am soooo happy for you, and gives me something to look forward to. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I look forward to when this does take a back seat in our life.

Did your wife realize that was your D-day anniversary. It's funny that you wrote this, because D-day has been on my mind a lot lately, and it's still 3 months.

I think you'd be proud of me, over dinner when night, around Christmas time, it was just him and I and a restaurant. Nothing fancy. We were talking about Christmas, and this and that. Well a year ago at that time, things were pretty involved between them and I had always wondered if they exchanged gifts, cards, or anything like that. So I asked him. He was very truthful with me and told me no, he never bought her a damn thing other than a coffee one time. He never spent any money on her (didn't really have it to spend anyway)and that isn't what it was all about. Then he volunteered that that part of his life was the worst mistake he could have ever done, and a part of his life he'd like to forget.

So anyway, just an update. Didn't mean to threadjack. I'm glad things are going okay for you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

keep in touch!

Hugs,
LJB