and I believe I may have finally convinced my WH of this little tidbit. After several attempts at Plan B, I finally managed to do it and doing a damned good job at it thank you...lol. After a rather lovely Xmas Holiday, WH made yet another attempt to "suck" me into his cake-eating routine. I didn't take the bait this time and basically said, "Good Bye, don't let the door hit ya' where the good Lord split ya!" For three blessed weeks (yes, peace, tranquility, lack of stress, artifice and everything else), he hasn't called, e-mailed, made any attempt at contact. Hey, it made my Plan B even easier.

Alas, my story changes course as I answered my cell phone. I didn't recognize the number, but heck it could have been anyone...well, he was using someone else's phone. The conversation went like this...

Hi, it's me, I haven't spoken to you in a long time and I wanted to wish you Happy Birthday (it was last Friday btw). I know its late, but I didn't think u wanted to me to call.

My response was, "Um, you've left Alma, sent the NC letter and am calling to resume a real life marriage?" He said, "No, not y....I cut him off and said, "Well, nothing more for us to say then....then I introduced him to Mr. Click, not even given a proper introduction!!!....lol"

I felt good that FINALLY, I was able to deny him of the fix. The fix of conversation with me, discussing everything from family, to life, to literature, to music, etc., etc. He has the OW and he made his choice on NYE when he had the opportunity to start new with me and the children. Well, I closed the door on him today and he knows that. Each time that he feels compelled to get a fix...guess what he should expect to face...you guessed it...Mr. Click....hehehehe.

I often wonder if he believes that I have bolts in my neck? Ugh, doesn't he realize that time heals and that out of this healing comes a different person. A person who no longer hangs on words, but expects actions!!!!! Hubby really has to put his oil can away....

kimmie

Wow! I failed at plan B a few times. You mean I still have hopes to go for it again and make it work this time. I feel better now. Good luck! Love

Hi Karena -

I'm so new at this that I feel odd posting to your thread, but I wanted to say 'congrats' - I wish I had that kind of b....er....things. AThat was a great job. Hope he gets the message. I had a totally evil thought today that would really ruin things for me - I haven't even done Plan A yet, but it crossed my mind a few minutes ago:

I have a good friend who is a mover - he moves anything - rocks, sand, horses, $25,000 antique pianos, you name it. He has a very efficient crew. I thought about how interesting it would feel to have him move all of my WW stuff out of the house while she's out one day, and take it all over the her boyfriend's house and dump it in his front yard.

Then I realized how evil that would be.

Anyway, you encouraged me...Thanks,

David

Hiya Love...lol. I failed at Plan B more than a few times...more like a few dozen times. My life this 2.5 years would be worthy of a Lifetime Original Story...Oiling the Bolts of Love: The KP story...hehehehehe. I believe I've finally come to that point where the energy is all depleted, and I really have no time to deal with the nonsense. Basically, I've deleted the main ingredient of the cake eater recipe....choice. I've removed myself from this insanity. Now, what is a cake eater without choices???? Trapped and soon to be very sorry for a very poor decision....oh well. That's not for any BS to worry about, is it.

Hugs

Good to hear!! I think it takes a few failure in plan B to get the hang of plan B. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Your doing awesome... Hopefully one day I can get to the place your at... I am working on it though... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Thanks everyone...it took me a very long time to get here, but guess what, it does happen. I was a basket case for the longest time and did what all BS's do, I fought extra hard to save the marriage. Sometimes in our efforts to save, we do things that are not entirely right, but eventually, we do find our way to begin living again.

Tanelornpete...lol, some of that stuff is mild compared to the visions of hellraising I wanted to accomplish...nothing is more evil than a woman scorned....hehehehe. However, I had some awesome friends on MB (Hugs to Star, Tak, Le, Lulu Belle, Cerri, et. al) who talked me out of my depression, my urges to do bodily harm to OW, but more importantly who taught me the importance of how to start thinking "me" instead of "him" and how to just go dark.....lol. Tak probably still has nightmares about my inability to grasp what No Contact means; Star never let her frustration show when I picked up the phone; Le just kept repeating and repeating....I often wonder how they didn't all sign a petition to have me committed (a long time ago). Keep posting here folks...you'll meet and get advice from some of the greatest and most compassionate men and women you're every privliged to meet...they will all advise you, guide you, tsk tsk you, but the most important thing, they are always there to pick up the pieces of a broken heart....

Good Luck to you all.

EXCELLENT!!!

I always get soooo sad when someone posts that they are in plan B...and then go on to relay some conversation they had with their WS...

and want help sorting out the emotional downfall of that interaction....

so good what you did..
so funny he "used' someone elses phone... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

this is plan b...

For three blessed weeks (yes, peace, tranquility, lack of stress, artifice and everything else),

your husband is either avoiding mirrors right this minute...for there is no one but himself staring back at him and what his actions are...

blessings to ya....karena...
hope everyone in plan B reads this post...and never ever posts about a conversation about nothing they had with a WS while in plan B...unless it ends with MR CLICK!!!!
or mr. slam...mr. gottago...mr buh-bye...they are OK as well....

ARK

I am so proud of you!

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks everyone for your ongoing support and pats on the back. It took me a very, very long time to stop reacting and taking action. I think Wiggles is still speechless and probably even still holding the cell phone....

But the good thing is...he didn't call back...yeah, maybe Watson finally did get it this time. He'll go back to reference Cake-eating for Dummies and see what his next plan of action is....unfortunately, he's forgotten that while he is living with an illiterate, lol, his wife knows how to read words longer than two syllables. I was and always will be one step a head of him from here on in....

Thanks again.

Karena,

I have to tell you I was smiling from ear to ear reading this. You got it girl.

You have such a personality that reading this post was nothing less than a pleasure!

Well worth the logon today to read this!