Anyone who knows my story knows that H's last A began as a threesome deal with with OW and her H who was H's best friend for years and years and my H.

After getting no contact set and sealed a few years ago things have gone better and better.

H's Uncle lives with us, he drives a taxi, he just came home a little while ago telling me he
had seen H's former friend tonight. He didn't tell the friend exactly where we live now "just the entersection" not the apt. number. And he didn't give the guy our phone number. BUT the guy sent a message to H that he and ow are broken up/divorced whatever. And that H should give friend a call.

I am hissed off, I can't not give H the message because his Uncle will tell him anyway and tell him he told me. I DO NOT WANT THIS GUY IN OUR LIVES AGAIN AT ALL ! The man has lived in my home, eaten my cooking ect.. and yet he invited my H to join he and his w in sex. No H didn't have to do it but he did. I don't like him at all, IMO he disrespected me and my M when he and w decided to invite H to join them and the thought of H talking to him at all makes me want to puke frankly.

I did let H's uncle know I do not want this guy in my life or marriage in anyway.

So now I have to wait and see if H decides he wants his friend in his life again. I just know he can't have his friend and I both.

AAARRRGGGGHHHH every darn time I think all is well something happens.

Sorry Deb,

Was this an innocent mistake on your H's uncle's part? If so then let your H show you how he will help you over this type of trigger. I certainly understand why you feel upset.

Again, your H needs to help you calm down. Remove the tirgger and replace it with: _______________ (?).

take care,
L.

Hi Orchid,

Yeah it probably was an honest mistake on Uncles part. It's only upsetting me because I am not sure how Bozo is gonna react and because we have been doing so well lately. I seem to always be afraid something is going to mess things up when we are doing ok, maybe because something always does.

Just when I am happy and feeling secure something has to rock my boat, I don't need it right now I really don't not on top of losing my Mom and her siblings turning their backs on my sisters and I. Too much stress makes Deb want to go into the dark cave and want to stay there.

In an hour Bozo will be getting up and I will calmly tell him that his Uncle saw creepazoid and give him the message. I will also ask him to please tell me if he decides he wants to contact creepazoid before he does it. Ugh.. he will also know ow is now single. ::shaking head:: This bites

Ok, Deb U R my last post.... waaay past my beddy bye time. LOL!!!

Tell him and remember that OWs stink. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Give him the job to help you feel better. Put on your MB airfreshener...... required for your home to feel safe and OW stench free. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.

OK, I told H about it this AM, told him that I can't tell him what to do but that I am not willing to have creepazoid in my life in any way shape or form. Asked him to please have enough respect for me to let me know before hand if he decides to call creepazoid or to try to find ow.

Bozo says he wants nothing to do with either of them. He says he's happy that I have nothing to worry about. I hope that's true. I have no choice but to take him at his word, creepazoid is NOT worth fighting with H over for sure.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Very proud of U! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

L.

Heh, yeah it only took me 6 years to get to this point.

I may be slow but when I learns I learns real well !