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Well that's why we are here...... to help each other out when our brains get frazzled. Don't beat yourself up. Just don't get too excited when you phone keeps vibrating. LOL!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Alank, hang in there. That ringing phone is validation that what you are doing is the right course of action to take.
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alank - Remember to batten down the hatches. Your wife will try to contact you using many ruses. She will say she wants to talk about the kids. When you give in, she will drag you back on the rollercoaster.
After several months of staying dark, you may see some changes.
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Ditto what Bear said!!
Oh, I'm confused... </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If I had half a brain today I could have put it on vibrate a long time ago.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Are you talking about putting your brain on vibrate? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I would love to be able to do that!!
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hey alan at least you have a phone my 4 yr old threw mine in the bathtub saturday.
sorry to hear all the crap you are going through. im glad you have your kids. can you teach me to french braid, i cant even make a good pony tail. my poor daughter went to church yesterday looking like a 1 eared basset hound. i hope there are no pics that turn up when she is a teenager or im in big trouble
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">my poor daughter went to church yesterday looking like a 1 eared basset hound. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Now THAT is funny! Been there...done that!
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dalson, I spent two hours on the internet to learn how to french braid.
Tried it 4 times before I got it to the point I would let her outside.
I think my brain is already on vibrate, having a hard time at work today <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
All the doors are closed to her right now, if I can keep up my end perhaps we will see something good come of this.
The hardest part at work is involving my receptionist, she has to be my gatekeeper and not let the WW through to me.
I think she will need a raise <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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You dads have my deepest respect. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Keep up the good work.
Personal experience: One day waaaay back in the 1960's (when little girls dressed up to visit their mom's at work), my dad got me ready and took me in. I was about 3 at the time.... my dad & I waltzed into my mom's office thinking we were looking pretty spiffy. Nice dress, hair done, shoes, socks..... cute purse....
My mom freaked!!!! My dad had put my dress on backwards. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Awwhhh but he had done his best and I thought he was the greatest dad. My mom couldn't run for cover quick enough. I was sooo proud of my outfit, I ran straight for mommy. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Kids..... gotta luv 'em. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Kid's are the best.
When you are down, nothing better than a hug from you're kids. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Mine make everyday better, them and the hamster.
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my son is in my lap right now and wants to say hi. he loves the greamlins so here goes
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Well my WW does have her ways, she got through my switchboard by saying she was my sister <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
What a twisted mind.
Wants to know why I wont call her back, she went on for about 5 mins, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I told her that she knows my position, please stop calling me. If you have any concerns about the kids, call my Aunt. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I don't think she gets it.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I don't think she gets it.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Of course she doesn't get it ... she wants to have an affair with no consequences like all the rest of the WS's.
She's no match for you right now.
YOU HAVE A PLAN..... she has "feelings".
Hang on. She's gonna go from blue-weepy to red-rage right before your eyes more than once! Just you wait.
Get some popcorn and enjoy the show!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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I love popcorn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
I don't love my WW. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I hope the show is good. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by alank: <strong> Well my WW does have her ways, she got through my switchboard by saying she was my sister <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
What a twisted mind.
Wants to know why I wont call her back, she went on for about 5 mins, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I told her that she knows my position, please stop calling me. If you have any concerns about the kids, call my Aunt. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I don't think she gets it. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wow, document this. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
My motto is to keep 'em wondering. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by alank: <strong>she went on for about 5 mins</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Do not allow her to go on "for about 5 minutes."
As soon as you realize she caught you on the phone, refer to your Plan B letter and specify that nothing has changed. She meets the conditions or no talkie. None. Goodbye. "Call me when you are ready to restore our family. Our daughters need us together."
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Good call WAT,
she caught me off gaurd.
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Yeah...what WAT said!!
Alank...say this back over and over...
"Please refer to the letter I sent you. I have not changed my position. Goodbye." And then hang up. Keep several copies in your back poscket for when she physically confronts you.
She will try to make you slip up. Dont you do it. Have your response canned and ready. Ignore EVERYTHING now. You are in Plan B. she gets 5 seconds..."Please refer to the letter I sent you. I have not changed my position. Goodbye."
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Alan - such is the beauty and wisdom of Plan B > YOU are in control. She is OUT of control (in more ways than one <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ).
Concentrate on being the best Dad you can be. Practice those French braids. Maybe even teach them to cast a fly rod?
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I hope the show is good. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Keep up the sense of humor, alank!! It'll get you through the tough times!!! Great motto to live by (sorry, can't remember now who said it, though!) "He who laughs, lasts!"
Oh, and good job with the girls!!
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The show is getting good. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
WW came to my place of work <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
Not a good day. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
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