Lately I have been feeling a bit paranoid. I am not sure I am using the term right. It is that sense of being watched all the time. If I am getting in my computer I feel my husband may be watching what I write. Or if I am on the phone in the house or cell phone in the car I feel that something can be "bugged" and he is listening. I am sure I brought that on myself because of the snooping around I did and now my concience is giving feedback for behaving unlike my old self (before the my WH A when I was too naive). It just feels weird. I do not even really think my WH would think of something like that. He is the one with the A. Anyway, I just wanted to vent a little to get this off my head. I guess I will go see a doctor if it gets worse.
Thanks for listening, Love

Hi loal,

I don't think it's unusual to feel a bit paranoid after going through Infidelity although I wouldn't necessarily characterize it as irrational.Having a spouse cheat on you does make you feel unsafe and insecure in the world.I felt the same way for a while many,many months ago.

But what I always remembered is that I have nothing to hide so no one is going to GET me on anything,he can bug all the phones,hack into my e-mails and even go through my mail,nothing is going to show up that I can't stand proud of.

Someone could be out there to HARM me and I'll tell you,a few times,I looked at my WH when he was here at home and I was literally scared for my life the way he was looking at me.I had no idea what he was thinking but the look on his face was so eerie I had to leave the home,I truly felt in danger.Gosh,I am glad those days are over(well,one more weekend and he is no longer coming home).

So,I think for you the feelings will pass in time.It is dependent on what your situation is but for me,the feelings went away faster the more my WH was away.Which seems obvious.

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