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WW sent me an email acknowledging that she recieved the petition, and in same email is asking for some luggage, an art print (little $ value) and copies of financial paperwork.

I don't think I should give her anything, but is that realistic, or am I setting myself to look like I am just trying to be mean?

We also sold a house last month, before the filing and after she moved out, she has told me several times she wanted nothing from it, I used the money to pay down debt, she is now wanting copies of all the paperwork.

What if anything should I tell her, I am in FL?

Also DS has a B-Day this week, she wants to have the kids Saturday afternoon, but I still do not want them to be around OM, can I stop this, or is that more of a problem?

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Hi Hosea,

It would seem to me that if your WW has her own Lawyer now or talked to one,he/she is advising your WW to get the financial forms.In my WH's case,if he didn't pony up all the paperwork I could easily get it through the D proceedings but it's much easier(and looks better) if both parties give eachother all the pertinent information *THROUGH their respective Laywers ahead of time.In cases where there is a lot at stake and lots of money and assets to divide,some spouses can get sneaky and try to hide things but thats's where you can get into some real adversarial and costly situations and you want to avoid that.

Regarding household items,for me that was easy,my WH basically gave up everything for me to have.He did want a tea set I bought on our honeymoon though which he claimed HE bought.That was funny.I even have the receipt that shows I bought it and it was delivered to me.It's a really cool/modern tea set and I know he likes it but I said no.Just what would he do with a tea set? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> He doesn't drink tea.

Decide what is really worth fighting for and what you can "let go" in order to keep the peace.If the luggage pieces and artwork don't have any sentimental meaning or much value,I would say let the WW have it.I am letting my WH have all the wine glasses(that were hand made in Ireland)we were given at our Wedding since I don't drink.That was an easy decision.

As for the OM being around your kids: there have been so many threads about this subject I wish I could just draw them all up for you to read.But,long story short is that unless you get a quick legal order of some kind(not sure in your state) or specifically refuse to let this guy around your kids and make sure your WW adheres to this(probably not) then you may not have much choice.You can appeal to your WW's little sense of decency she may have left and explain how you feel but many times they just run as fast in the opposite direction to do what they want.

However,if you tell your WW that you just find it unacceptable to have the OM around your children while you are STILL married,let HER try to find a way to make your son be around the OM.Refuse to let her have the child knowing that she is putting her needs first and exposing him to a man of this character,etc.Your WW will be mad but your son must be protected.Try what ever you can to keep that man away.Be calm but firm,no LB's or DJ's OK? That is what I would do.

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<small>[ January 18, 2005, 12:57 PM: Message edited by: Octobergirl ]</small>

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Hosea,

While these boards are an excellent place for support in trying to rebuild a marriage, and arguably a good place to come to help get through a divorce....

There is no replacement for retaining legal counsel of your own for what is, after all, a legal proceeding.

Just a thought.

-OAK


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