Well, the subject says it all....after nearly a year...we got back together. Now after 2 wonderful weeks...my FWW went out for what had started as a lunch with her work GF...and when I learned of it going into supper plans...I let the hard, sharp mouth that she saids pushed her into her A...run her off again...any thoughts.

I thought someone would give me a little input? I really was mean with my mouth Friday evening. Although she left me for the 3rd. time...again moving out things while I was'nt home she went to dinner last night to a restaurant. I truly have said things I kinda didn't even totally remember...like 1st., if your not home by certain time...don't come home...then I followed that up with just stay at your girlfriends palce tonight.... Deb says I'll never change...but she'll not go find a church...together or meet with the Pastor that married us. I want this to work, and realize I as well as a couple need help, other than just what I've read. Prayers are welcome. Later.

My H and I have recovered without any sort of counseling.

I tried IC several different times before my H and I got back together.....but I never found one that I was comfortbale with.

By the time my H was willing to go to counseling I was completely turned off by the idea.

I also recovered without AD's. I tried a few when my H and I were seperated....but the side affects weren't worth it.

I also had a hard time keeping my feelings and mouth in check in the beginning......as a matter of fact....my mouth still runs sometimes. My mouth tends to be faster than my brain.

I have gotten better though.......with my mouth and my feelings. I tend to think about things more before I react to them. I wiegh them now....as to wether something is worth my time getting upset over.....or if it's something that maybe I'm over reacting to. I have a problem with over analyzing things.....though I've gotten better at that too.

One thing I had to realize was that I had a RIGHT to my feelings.....but I didn't have a right to yell at my H because he didn't agree with me on some of those feelings. Afterall....he's entitled to his feelings also.

Hey WB...

With my W and I, it is IC. We tried MC--just didn't work. We were at a point where we needed to "fix" ourselves. We are at a point now where we can work together.

I'm sorry I didn't answer your question...but in our situation, I don't think we would be in recovery without IC (and MB.)

Hey WB -

My W and I "made it" for a little over 10 years without MC... Our M was OK... but deep down, I always felt that something was missing from our M.

My W confessed to additional A's that all occured during our first three years of M and my OK M crashed and burned.

We started MC with our church and she started IC as well as AD medication...

For me, I don't believe that our M would be where it is today without MC...

Semper Fi,
RIF

Thanks folks...Misspriss...I too have been told that I overanalyze things....tonight deb came back with a suitcase...we are going to try to save this yet. Later.

WB...great news!

Best wishes and blessings.