Its been a few weeks since I posted. The WW is still in her A with the OM and has been out of the the house since Sept 19th. D-Day was June 19th, so much for the 6 month exposure guideline. I guess it has only been 7 months, but he now has a drawer and keeps a razor and slippers at the WW apartment.
About 2 months ago I gave up on my marriage. I realized that no matter what our future holds, my current marriage is done. My WW has destroyed any honor that was left in our vows, and I have been no angel. I feel as if any type of relationship can be between us, we have to do so with a whole new marriage. Not sure if that will ever happen, I doubt it.
Well, I have two questions.
1) I started to date and when my WW found out she blew gaskets, to the point I had to call the police on her for both our protection, after she threw a lamp a few beer bottles and my cell phone I felt my grip on reality slipping, so I called the cops. They came and went and we yelled some more. Since then, all I get are condemning comments about my behaviour. Is it normal for wayward spouses to have such giant double standards? I think so, but just want to make sure.
2) My WW is stalling with the seperation and her lawyer. Is that normal? She will not call him and when she does, supposedly he doesn't call her back. I do not want to, but if she doesn't become more proactive, I may just sue her for divorce. I would not like to do that, but I am sick of paying her and not moving forward.
I am still amazed at how much I can miss her. Although I do not think it is her so much as the relationship I miss.
I also so amazed at how good my WW is at lying. I had no idea. How could I be so blind? I am a fool.
I look back now and realize she was treating me the way she felt she should be treated. She knew what she was doing was wrong. Somehow she felt it was OK to not trust me.
Well, thanks as always for listening. Any feedback on if the double standard and stalling thing is to be expected would be appreciated.
