Ok let me explain to you some things I have found out over the week. I found out that when my WH was marrried before me he had an affair. His marriage ended because he would not end the contact with OW. After their divorcee he went to Calif. to visit OW. It did not go any further and he met me. He told me things that made me believe his ex was seeing OP and that was reason for his D. I feel hook line and sinker. I have been with him a long time and this is the first A he has had. He had me convinced it was only a EA. But now that I know what a liar he is I believe it was alos a PA. He has started working late on Thursdays again getting home after *pm. I know in my gut he is seeing her still. Maybe her H bowls or something. So this is my plan -seeing my MC today -telling him my plans. So tomorrow I have to take H truck to pick up stuff for FIL's trailer. I will drop it off at home and then go north to OW house around 5pm and watch adn follow her to meeting place they have . I am sure it it a small branch office up there where no one is at most of the time -it is a control office. Perfect for hiding from boss and looking like you are working. I will bring my camera and take pic's. I am also mailing her H the e-mails today. They have 2 addresses one is a PO box the other is a home address. I will send to both. With my cell number so he can contact me this wkend. If I do not get contact from him I will mail them again on Monday. Any thoughts on what I am doing. I want to know what she looks like in case she is coming around our places we frequent. He had one OW coming around last year and I put and end to that as well.

Oh forgot to say this H wants this to get over with and for us to move on. Told him he needs to be honest and tell me everything. In a very loving way. NO LB's. He said there is nothing to tell. That was it. So that is why I am doing what I am doing and I will not LB!

I'm so sorry! I also found out that my WH had other affairs. I don't know how they can "pretend" to be happy for so long and then WHAM>...they drop the bomb on us! It's SO CRUEL!!!!!!!!

Good luck on following the OW and getting a picture. I hope it doesn't cause you too much pain to see her. I haven't had the courage yet to see what the OW looks like. I just can't yet. I know where she lives and have photos of her car and know her drivers lic. #.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there!

Realtor, so sorry. I had a question. In the beginning, you said that this was his first A. At the end, you said that last year he had an OW coming around. Is this his first A? (Besides pre-M.)

If you plan on being your own PI, just be careful. Your emotions may also "get in the way" of getting the facts.

In regards to sending them...You wanted to send to OW H, right? Not sure if esnding them is the best idea--if A going on, OW would probably just intercept them.

Be careful, OK?

First A -the 2nd OW was a flirtation - did not get off the ground. Ok so today I met him for lunch -he started his being pushy and demanding stuff again. Wanting his Dad to come for 3 days this weekend. Getting him on Sunday. Well Dad is 91 with dementia and incontience problems of bladder. I can nto take care of him myself as he is demanding, rude, verbally abusive and incontinent. It is the demnentia I know it. but also -he blames me for his problems just like his son. So I got up paid the bill and walked out -got in my car and drove off. Then went to funeral of co-worker. He knew I was going to this after lunch. He did this in front of a co-worker for the 2nd time in less than a week. I am so tired of his demanding and pushy nature. I have nothing left to give him and think I should go to plan B. or see a lawyer about a D. Anyhelp ? Please all advice is welcome.