Bob you said at least I wasn't going to leave Rob.

Oh yes I was!!! I did everything in my power to talk the OM into it.

But that was then, this is now.

Jen

Bloody hell Jen ! I thought I'd PORED over your history too !

Wow. I can't wait for Squid to be in a place wher she's happy to exchange with you.

I'm backing off MB a bit Jen. I think the 'ring' thing has made a few people excited and I've ofered a bit much advice for a newbie myself to be comfortable with.

I'm just going to enjoy being out of the sh1t for a while and have a few natural R talks. Also I think I've found a Christian pro M counselling service in the UK, I'll go see them for an IC session first.

I love Squid, she loves me. Neither of us feel like we're in the sh1t any more. Thats a GREAT place to be at four months NC doncha think ?

Ta Jen. I don;t want to sound like a stalker but I'll read more of your history again. Recovering from an exit affair. Wow. You two really ARE heroes.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Know what Jen ? This site is pulling me down, I gotta go for a while. Folks not doing the right stuff, folks not listening, guilt when i SHOULD write to help somebody out but I think others may be better suited, reminders of the horrible stuff I still have to do before I can call my Squiddy 'mine ' once again. Folks saying bad stuff about Squid when thats not their job, but no hurt is intended....

I need to enjoy our progress for a while and find the right MC for us. Can't do this , not now.

I'll pop in I'ville but I think I'll duck the wider site for a while. Its too hard jen. You know?

{{{jen & Rob }}}

Bob, I just posted to you on the Iville thread.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>This site is pulling me down, I gotta go for a while. Folks not doing the right stuff, folks not listening, guilt when i SHOULD write to help somebody out but I think others may be better suited,…</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Bob, I don’t want to interfere, but I just want to say the following - I’m sorry if my thread and posts this week here on GQII contributed towards letting you feel this way... You know, I think many times we FWS’s seek opinions & advice and then our posts unintentionally triggers something and upsets some BS’s (especially those who are still in recovery). It’s understandable.

Have a great weekend Bob, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Suzet

<small>[ January 21, 2005, 04:19 AM: Message edited by: Suzet* ]</small>

Suzet, I posted a closing comment on your thread.

Your thread didn't upset or trigger me. I get frustrated when something is obvious to me, and not to others.

I realised rereading this morning that you rsituation is unique here on MB, and consequently only you can decide what is an appropriate response.

An unusual unconventional interpretation of NC may well be just right for your unconventional sitiation.

Its outside my gift to advise one way or another outside of my own experience.

I should have read your history before wading in.

But I think certain FBS were projecting their own situational mores onto you which I guess is an occupational hazard of FWS posting on here. You guys must have thick skins <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

{{{suzet}}}

Just cutting in here Bob hoping you see this. I love Idiotville but sometimes there's so much to wade through I can't keep up.

We are all unique. We all process our grief in different ways but we are all here because we are grieving. Speaking only for myself, some posts compel me to respond, others I ignore. What I might post one day, wouldn't occur to me another.

If my comments re your ring bothered you, I am sorry. Remember, I am nothing to you. A blip on the computer. Your wife and your family are everything and your efforts in your recovery are enviable. TT.

TT nobody's to blame !

I need to focus my energies on US and not this board.

Your comments re: Squid being rewarded were very interesting ! Not disturbing at all ! Intent is teh difference between being a supportive FBS and a doormat. I reviewed my heart after your post and I know am not a doormat. that makes me happy ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

TTFN

I understand the backing off thing...
I too have to get my head 100% in the real world.
Very soon. I need to be there. Kids, wife, family, job. The whole package needs my undivided attention to thrive. I'm sure you are feeling something similar.

Before/if you wander off, just wanted to say thank you!

Made me see that the light at the end of the tunnel wasn't "always" a train. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />


DD

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Made me see that the light at the end of the tunnel wasn't "always" a train </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well said, DD. How are you?

Bob, I didn’t notice on Friday you also send me a post on this thread. Thanks! I’ve responded to you and send you another post on my thread this morning because I don’t want to highjack this one. Please read it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />