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#1264565 01/20/05 02:02 PM
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I don't know if this was a good idea or not.....

Don't know who's even familiar with my story anymore.

I went to a local bar, last night, the same place that I had run into WW previous times.

Didn't see her (wasn't looking), and was generally bored by the band, so I decided to leave early.

As I left, guess who I saw? The longtime GF of OM1, who's cheated on her more times than she'll ever know. When she find out about OM1 and WW, she called WW. WW told her that it wasn't true, that I was just upset about the D. She and I exchanged pleasantries (we knew each other previously.) As I left, I gently told her: "It was true." She looked crushed. After a brief How?When?Why? session, we parted ways. WW&OM3 and OM1&GF were enjoying the show.

Needless to say, I've been bombarding by a string of nasty text messages.

Including the classics:
"Go Away" - (If I could run any faster, I would...)

"***I'm**** ruining lives" (rrriiigghhht)

"Hope I feel better" (I didn't)

A bunch of them.

Wow.

OM2 was harrassing WW, so she told his GF about what happened.

But she didn't tell OM1's GF the truth. What does she stand to gain by continuing the lie?

Things that make you go hmmmmmmm?

I think I'm going back to being dark. Waaaayyyyyy dark.

Safer there.

Get the D done and run for the hills.......

Ugh.......

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tfm:

It never ceases 2 amaze me just how angry and a'flutter people can get over a simple 3-word statement of fact.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

-ol' 2long

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Don't know who's even familiar with my story anymore.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I think I'm going back to being dark. Waaaayyyyyy dark.

Safer there.

Get the D done and run for the hills....... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Good idea.


Binder (jeez....I've reduced myself to two word replies <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> )

Hope the new job is going well.

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2long,

I'm happy to see that you stuck around <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

And that was the one question I wanted to ask of her: "Why are you so mad at me?"

What did I do wrong?

It's just kinda sad that she has actually regressed as a human over the past year.

She did tell me that telling OM1's GF wasn't my responsibility. Who's was it? Oh. WW and OM1. How'd that pan out? Yikes........

Can you believe that I kind of feel sorry for OM3? He probably still hasn't figured out why she wants to stay friends with OM1. I'm sure OM1 helped WW get her job with the company he works for. What a nice guy, that OM1.

Poor sap.......

Binder,
Thank you.

Job's great. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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<small>[ January 20, 2005, 08:58 PM: Message edited by: thefurnitureman ]</small>

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I remember your story, too. And I'll tell you my XH is frequently STILL angry and short and accusing toward me.

He was that way again today when I asked if he'd signed the cancellation for the life insurance policy he was to cancel by December, because it came out of my bank account again today. I asked it professionally and without accusation. He immediately copped an attitude and said, "Fine, I'll mail you a f-ing check!!" before he even bothered to answer my initial question.

What the heck did I do anyway?? I just asked a "business" question, and no, I'm not happy that I just paid another $40 for life insurance for a man I'm no longer married to.

My guess...you and I did NOTHING wrong (okay, some things perhaps that weakened our marriages, but we weren't the ones who took off with the OP).

I think our WS/XS are just angry with themselves and their own lives and they try to project their anger and the blame on us to relieve their guilt.

Just my opinion. Not worth much.

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lordslady:

You're right on with your opinion.

It's what they all do, and why they do it.

-ol' 2long

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Ethan,

Don't worry about how she feels now. Just move on with the big D and go have a life. She is still playing the OM after all this time. Will she ever see what she has lost?

I think you are a great guy and a great catch. There is someone for everyone out there. Once you are divorced I know you will find happiness. And when you do, we want to hear all about it. Don't forget us because I personally am a sap for happy endings.

Prayers always.

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Ethan,

I still know your story too. In fact you were one of the first I started reading, even before I ever logged in and came aboard.

YOU Ethan, are soooo much more than you know. Or can even imagine.

Ditto what all the others said.

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familiar I am, and also the want to ditto on the transfer the blame to others by the WS. even more reason why we need to guide our actions so much during everything so that we can just stand by and watch and not get any of the filth on us.

get the D done, stay on top of things, continued prayers to you, RR


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