my life just keeps on spiraling downward into the towlet.my ww just keeps on and on. yesterday she called about the kids and she started crying and i asked if she was ok she said yes and she had to go. i waited about 15 minutes and called her back and she had changed into the devil. i asked her if she needed to talk and i was here if she needed me, she said she couldnt talk to me, i said couldnt or wouldnt , she said both. i said why not. she said im just not someone she feels she can confide in. i said well i guess ill let you go. so last night i call to talk with the kids and after i ask her why she cant confide in me , she said it was because i was not a friend, she said she had a true friend (om) that she could confide in and i said teri he is MARRIED i said what about his w. she said that they havnt had a relationship in 10 years.
what in the **** are these ws thinking!
she also said she would never talk to me, and after what i did this weekend how could i expect her to ever want to reconcile.(i left a message on her vm,it said this has caused you to lose your husband your kids your respect and probably your job.i hope it was worth it)
she gets caught in bed w/ another womans h by her, and after what i done.
he leaves her and chases his wife and she has to drive 6 hrs at 2 am, thats a good friend.
just venting

<small>[ January 20, 2005, 04:03 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

dalson, I understand what you are saying, the friend stuff just burns my a**.

If I were to ever have a friend like my WW's she would go nuts!! She even told me that not long ago.

The world you're WW lives in right now has no up or down, she is spinning around looking for a place to land.

As for you're life going down the toilet, I think the same thing at times....

Yet you have the power to pick yourself up and carry on. Remeber you don't need you're WW, you just choose to try and save you're M.

In the end, I do belive she needs you much more than you will ever need her. You have a sane mind, you can make a proper judgment about life, the WW's are unable to do that.

Stand firm and be strong, you can do this. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

* orchid did it better and nicer than me * <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

pecker up DD

<small>[ January 20, 2005, 02:11 PM: Message edited by: Bob Pure ]</small>

Dalson,

Will you stand still for a minute? Don't move.... I am gonna whop you upside with that mb 2x4.....now where is it? LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Listen, stop trying to talk to the WS. Ask to speak to your W B4 you say anything. If she isn't available and only this alien like WS is, then DON'T speak to strangers. ok? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Posted with great love and frustration..... awwwh.... I feel better now.

Does you head hurt? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

L.

Dalson,

Hang in there. I think all of us BS hear how we never were the friends that the OP is. My WW told me the same thing. I never was her friend. I asked her why she married me and she just replied "I don't know". My WW's "wonderboy" is so perfect that he walks on water with my WW. He can do no wrong. I guess in the end we will see. We all have felt like our lives were in the crapper. It is a roller coaster, some moments are up and some are down. Hang in there. You will make it through this.

MIF?

Dalson did something new happen today or are you still spinning on last night? I will tell you what so many wise people have told me. Only you know when you have had enough.

Your wife is talking out of the WS handbook- I know it is hard to hear and it is very painful- your wife is not in reality- she is in fogland, it does not take the pain away- but know it is not you. YOU ARE A GREAT MAN, a fabulous father and a wonderful friend. I am sorry you are struggleing so much right now. Is there something that I can do for you?

<small>[ January 20, 2005, 02:44 PM: Message edited by: KMEJ ]</small>

thanks alan bob orchid mif
i have stopped contact with her, i had to e-mail her about our house, i have a contract on it, i told her via e-mail i would drop it off at the receptionist desk and pick it up later. she said she would just come down and sign it. i replied that i would rather do it the other way. that she made her feelings about me perfectly clear last night
poor her she lost her soulmate

yep and she will go through her withdrawl and then start to realize what she has really lost and maybe she will realize it in time and maybe she won't and your love bank will be empty. Who knows.....

Again Dalson I am sorry for your pain. Enjoy your babies tonight.

So since you have a contract does that mean that you have accepted an offer on your home?

double post- sorry

<small>[ January 20, 2005, 03:17 PM: Message edited by: KMEJ ]</small>