<small>[ January 21, 2005, 07:30 AM: Message edited by: Intruder800 ]</small>

Call the police and ask them to come get your gun. Turn it in.

Pep

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Intruder800:
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Confrontation went reasonably well. He thought I was crazy and agreed to everything. I did NOT display weapon. But It did tell him that if I was him I wouldn't contact her again, EVER." He was convinced.

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sadly, I think this (as you already know by now) was a very bad mistake. With all due respect, no sane, rational person does what you just did. You cannot hope to recover your marriage when you have such lack of judgement to do what you just did. This can only DRIVE your WW farther away. I suspect you know this. What happens next time when "confrontation" does not go so "reasonable" ? This isn't about marriage building at all here. Get rid of the gun NOW and get some serious IC help Tommorrow. Good luck with all of this, I will say a quiet prayer for you.

I second Pep's suggestion. Call them now!!!

Then:
Call someone to watch your children.
Call a friend or family member who has a calming influence on you...and you trust.
Call a therapist.
For legal reasons...delete this post!

The police is a bit drastic in my opinion, but different people have a different level of comfort with firearms.

I don't think it's a good idea that you have access to a firearm right now, so if you have a friend you trust, place the weapon in his custody.

Do you have a gun safe? If so, have the combination changed and only give the combo to your friend. Lock up your weapons until you are more level headed.

Instead of taking a firearm, take a friend if you are afraid of a confrontation.

I'm uncomfortable with you having access to a weapon right now, but I don't believe you have to give them up to the police if you have a trusted friend who can hold or manage them for you.

TB

I second the advice to delete this post....If a restraining order is placed on you (at least in CA) you will have to surrender or sell ALL your firearms regardless if you ever had used them to threaten someone. It would just take a little paperwork by the OM, and you have an instant police record.

I am very comfortable with owning firearms (I am from Texas originally - go figure <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ), and I was very worried about the OM filing a restraining order on me for simply telling him I wanted to fight him. It solved nothing and risked me getting a police record. Leave him alone if you can.....only expose the A to his family, friends, wife?, etc. No threats, no anger, no violence....it will just hurt you.


TM

Lose the weapon and delete your post.

GC

I wouldn't complicate life by calling polce and turning in the gun, but would give it to a friend to keep/hide it, or would hide it myself from even myself...
and, yes, delete posts...
and, yes, and above everything - take care of yourself! and be careful - one second snap can bring tons more of unhappiness; we just think sometimes we reached the bottom of misery... and very often we are not aware of how deep the hole indeed is....

I come from a background of military folk and hunters (also Texas). I know the thinking, and I know you won't discard or give away your gun, regardless of the advice you receive here. So, at least have someone else hold it for you.

Important question: is this your only firearm? Be honest with yourself. You don't need protection from this OM. Other posters are correct here and I think you know it: right now, you don't need to have possession of your firearms. Please protect yourself and your family by having a friend hold ALL of them for you until you are solid emotional ground.

PM

I think a lot of you are over-reacting.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Call the police and ask them to come get your gun. Turn it in.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">For legal reasons...delete this post!

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I did nothing illegal. I carried the weapon legally and never displayed it illegally. I had no intention of doing so unless I felt I was in serious danger. Chill.

Most of you don't know all that has transpired over the last 14-15 months. I know that I should not have gone there at all. I have been dealing with more pain and despair than I have ever had to deal with. This is the THIRD OM! I have watched all hope of saving my marriage vanish after 14 years. It is so hard to deal with day to day, Children ( I see them dealing with this too), home, business ect. Then, to have this BS going on. I mean, if you don't want to be married then get unmarried and then do what you want. Look, I am not going to make excuses for anything I did. I, at this point, don't feel I should be here. I don't have much, if any, hope of re-building my marriage.

Thanks to all that have tried to help,
CJ

This is the THIRD OM!

Then you know this is not about OM but about your wife.

I did not mean to imply you had done anything illegal, but it is obvious you are too upset and not thinking clearly to trust yourself with weapons.

Loose ALL the weapons where you cannot get to them without needing to take several rational steps before they can be returned to you.

I don't want you to hurt yourself. I think that is the more likely horrible event you need to prevent!

That's all I meant... and just handing them over to a friend may not be safe enough.

Best to you.

Pep