Is this normal? Ever since he found out that I talked to the OW and she told me everything, he has been making jokes about our situation. My counselor said maybe he is doing that to see if we could really *live* with it if he decides to work on our marriage.

After he found out I talked to OW, he was mad and told me it was over and he was needs to leave me because no one (me or OW) believes that he is serious about sperating and getting a D. Of course I proved him wrong that night. He has no self control.

I know he is not leaving any time soon, but now...I think it would be best if he did. Each day gets harder and harder, knowing that he doesn't want to be married to me, not wearing his ring and basically acting single. I asked him the other day when he was leaving and he looked at me puzzeled, and said he had nothing to do today and was staying home. I laughed and said no, I meant leaving us and he just rolled his eyes and said he doesn't want to talk about that right now.

OW lives states away. Besides phone calls she isn't a threat. But he goes out every weekend with his single friends...wonder how long it will take before he meets someone here.

Did anyone else go thru this? I don't understand the whole joking around part. It is like he wants to make me mad.

Momto,

I don't know what to say except your WH is acting like an immature jerk. I wish I had more to say than that. Sorry for what you are going through, you sound very good though.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Did anyone else go thru this? I don't understand the whole joking around part. It is like he wants to make me mad.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WS...! What can I say? You never know what to expect from them at any point.

When I talked to OW, WH asked me if OW and I would be having coffee next. Then he started fantasazing about OW and I "together" and you do not want to hear the rest WH was capable of saying. WH is still not wearing his ring but at this time neither am I.

Good luck! Love

Sometimes humor is a coping mechanism. I make a lot of jokes about my WH. It's one way I can take something too big to think about and break it into managable bits. While I can still laugh, I can still live.

Then again, maybe he's an immature jerk.