I'm serious about this question. My STBXH even until we seprated was uncomfortable even saying the word sex. He says he doesn't know why, etc. He was raised be older parents who were very private and I'm sure there was no talk of the subject. But, besides that, he's been a part of locker rooms, ball teams, male friends and colleagues, so, wouldn't an assumed uncomfortableness be overrided by just the nature of growing up?

Have any of you got any experience or feedback regarding this?
keep smilin

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KS, I guess a low response because- no, most folks are happy to talk about sex !
Heck most of us enjoy it and make lovely babies with it ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

My folks were relatively old parents too but never had a problem with sex.

What the story with your STBXH ? Why do you ask the question KS ?

I can say "sex" but if I say it......will I get any???? LMAO

My Mom had me all hung up on what you should and shouldn't do regarding sex....she actually told me never to have oral sex with a man because "They don't wash there".....I was absolutely disgusted by oral sex (either giving or receiving forEVER) it took a long time to figure out that I didn't need to be grossed out, this was actually okay.

So Yes, I can say SEX.....I just won't be getting any for a long while LMAO!!!!!!!!!!

-Caren

Caren...LMAO. I can say it too but it doesn't change that I'm not getting it. LOL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> When?????????

My WH could never tell me I was beautiful. He always had a problem with that. He would say "you look ya know that B word".
I asked him why he couldn't say it. He said because he was my husband and husbands don't say that to their wives. WHATEVER! I guess they can only say that to their skanky girlfriends.

LMFAO Tree...he couldn't say beautiful?? That's so lame!!!!! Hey my WH can't pronounce spaghetti....he still says Basketti, like a 2 year old......ha ha dumb [censored] OW, make him some spaghetti and see how that pronounciation tickles your fancy....or for that matter, find out how cool at is that no matter how hard you worked on dinner that he will put ketchup or miracle whip all over whatever it is......Have fun b*tchlips!!!

-Caren

Caren..
LOL! You crack me up! Yea...my WH takes longer to get dressed than I do...wonder how the dingaling OW likes waiting on him all the time?
Boy, this feels good....getting it all out. Haha!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
I'm going out with the girls tomorrow night....I can hear it now...we'll be bashing my WH and OW all night. FUN..FUN!!!!

I didn't realize that the question begged the "not getting any either" response, but, err, if it would get me some, i say....." SEX, SEX SEX!" Sheesh. Well, back to the question again.

Bob, he and I are both Christians, and we are very different- of course. Is there any way? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I wonder if his strict moral code somehow got confused with what's okay in a "normal" maritial relationship? Let me clarify a bit. We have four children, and they were all conceived in the missionary position. Okay? TMI? I have always been the adventurous one and would be willing and would enjoy a lot of variety. He never, and I mean never explored other "types" of sex with me, or heaven forbid, with himself. He is extremely self-concious about me even asking if he masturbates. It embarrassed him for me to ask. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

He wanted sex fairly often, so that part seemed "normal." I guess I just don't really understand why when he had a willing and enthusiastic partner, he never wanted to go past his modest comfort level. Is this something that other guys deal with? Is it a mix up between his Christian values and his rights and privileges as a married man? I mean, I'm a Christian, too, and I think I'm a wildcat.

Someone please enlighten me.
keep smilin

By the way "SEX." Still none. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

First up, tons of sympathy for you folks that aren't knockin boots right now. It will come again, and I hope sooner rather than later.

That being said, the word sex has always struck me as a little clinical...fine for a ONS when I was younger, but not so much in a committed relationship. Lovemaking sounds pretentious to me, 'cause it ain't always about gentleness.

So when the mood strikes, after light kissing and such, I tell FU that I am "feeling frolicsome". Frolicing just kinda sums up what I prefer doing in the bedroom, I guess.

Maybe I worry too much about having the right words.

-OAK

Frolicsome works. But, I bet it doesn't make you feel uncomfortable to say it? Sigh.
keep smilin

Naw, but "sex" can, depending on the circumstances, is my point <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

-OAK

KS

Who invented sex ?

GOD DID !

He intends us to have WONDERFULLY FULFILLING AND SATISFYING sex as OFTEN as we wish with our spouses !!!!

He smiles when a husband and wife have loving sex. LOVES it !

Your H should remember that !

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My WH has big problems with the sex thing too. Can't really talk about it. I've always thought he probably got the bad Catholic school attitude. Can barely do it. Not very inventive. Almost like it has to be a dirty, furtive thing.

We were at a party once with a bunch of parents from one of our kid's sports teams. The conversation came around to sex and WH just couldn't deal with it. He immediately found an excuse why we had to leave. Weird!