First off I think the photo album is a great thing.

I just looked at it and got profoundly sad. So many beautiful people betrayed. SO much pain in all of these people's lifes. It is all so sad. This ever happen to anyone after looking at the thread?


LM

Lemonman just can't look at them now. to painful...to many memories of such wonderful times

Lemonman...
I know exactly what you mean. I was looking at it this morning and thought the same thing. So many people betrayed and hurt and in so much pain. It just isn't right.

Hi,


Try to convert Depression into Motivation....

<small>[ January 22, 2005, 12:01 PM: Message edited by: Rescue Me ]</small>

You know Lemon, the photo thread doesn't really make me sad like it did you. But sometimes this board is mored painful than I can take, however am compelled to keep coming back.

What makes me sad is all of the people going through this, or who have gone through this and have no place to go to heal, or to even get through it. They don't have MB and that makes me sad, and worried.

I am terribly proud to be part of this MB community and have just now decided to add my pic.

For me I need to take a break from here for awhile, because it is so addictive that I need to pull back.

Keep trying but keep logging in just to check. Might have to disconnect internet service for awhile. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

lemonman, it doesn't make me sad, but it does make me think. There are some gorgeous folks here...and it would behoove the BSs' to remember that it's not always because of "younger and prettier", though that's often the inital knee-jerk reaction.

Sometimes...it just *is*...

Hey, I'm reasonably attractive, very intelligent, very sexual, etc etc. What's not to love about me? Smile..that's what I'm working on. And I'm basically thinking that yeah, *some* of all this is about me and my behavoirs, but really, it's all about him and his selfishness.

Sometimes it breaks my heart to look...
the children are awesome and amazing....each and every one.....I love that....

then I look at WAT and 2LONG in his tennies....and I just crack up...works every time
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


ARK

Whoops! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ January 22, 2005, 01:51 PM: Message edited by: Resilient ]</small>

I must say that I felt profoundly moved as I looked beyond the pictures to see the sadness behind the smiles, a sadness that I know only too well.

Mr. G

lemon,

Looking at those pictures always gives me pause to remember that there are real people behind these cyber words.

These forums have functioned as a relief valve for me and as a community where I can be myself and not on guard, worried that anything I say will be reported back to my WW. Being from the midwest and having no childhood friends here on the west coast and no relatives other than my WW's family, I feel a real kinship to a lot of the MB posters. That is one thing being married to a BPD wife, her first priority was to cut me off from any life that I had before her. It was imperative that my isolation existed, so that she would not have to share me with anyone or anything.

Little did she know 8 years ago that the internet could bring me the friendship that she had so expertly and painstakingly rearranged.

MB forums give me hope, faith and comaraderie, but like someone else said, some painful reading. But as much as I vow to reduce my time here, I am drawn back by this hypnotic Siren's song.

When I look at the album I see a brotherhood/sisterhood created as a result of the most distressful and heartbreaking circumstances...it is then I am sad. However, there is promise for us all as well, as there is solace in knowing that the very same people can honestly speak with empathy, as well as sympathy. Every person on this board is beautiful because they seek to "make" things right and preserve the sacred institution that has so often become a thing of the past and made light of in every aspect of the media, tv, videos, movies, books, etc.

We need to recognize that in spite of all our woes and our tears, we've gained awesome friends and a network of folks who can bring us back from the brink of despair. That alone should make anyone smile.....

Hi LM,

I have mentioned this a few times: to me,looking at the photo album is like looking at the lost children's faces on milk cartons when they used to do that.They are smiling and look happy but you know that that isn't the case anymore,it's tragic to me.So many beautiful families destroyed.I can't look at it without crying so I usually don't.And,for the same reason I probably will not post my picture.I think I would really lose it if I viewed my own picture there.

O

Yep,

'Tis sad to put faces to all the tormented souls who are, until then, anonymous.

OG, that is a great analogy!

MIF?

Hi, Lemonman: <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

It makes me sad sometimes. Angry, too. But, it helps me to see there are faces behind the words, I see here.

THat is why I posted my picture. You can talk and talk but sometimes you need to see a "face" to understand a lot about how things are. It take the impersonality away and makes the forum a friends and family place.

LM, it doesn't make me sad to look at the photo album here on MB. I agree with Cymanca, who wrote, "looking at those pictures always gives me pause to remember that there are real people behind these cyber words."

I'm a little past 4 months past d-day, and I can say that looking at our *family* photos made me sad in the early days. In fact, any memory I had from the past was automatically categorized by whether it occurred while the cheating was going on. Funny thing, the brain, huh?

PM

Methinks papermom is a thread-killer. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
PM

Just to prove Papermon wrong here <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Maybe we should post some "recovery" pictures.
Just to see how we can get through this, with FWS or alone, and be happy and strong again.

In analogy I remember phoning a woman from a support circle for people who lost their children. I knew she had lost her child, too. She picked up the phone in a most friendly and cheerful way, and just that gave me hope. She had lost her child 4 years ago.. So I might get back to that joy in 4 years, too.

I am always made thoughtful, at least, too. All those hopeful pictures, most taken pre-affair when neither party had any clue as to the devastation about to strike.
These pictures are an exercise in trust. Like those "what happened next" TV shows.

Very sad.

Along with weaver and others I have to pull back from this place. I try to help but am conscious of my own lack of expertise and reading other poor soul's stries makes me pick teh csbas off my own healing.

It also makes me feel like all the world is an infidelity time bomb.

I think a recovery picture board is a lovely idea !

Thanks as ever to Faith who maintains this service for us !

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