Ok so all this time no one has hit on me. Now that I am feeling so low I am getting the attention by a couple of guys. It is so hard not to just sit with them and talk about everything I have been going through. Take comfort from them and just have someone to listen to me. I have been so empty for so long it would be lovely to have someone there for me. I know my WH would hit the roof and probably get into a fight with another man. He feels I should be with him even though he is a cheating scumbag of a man. Who is still in deep FOG. What do you think alot of female friends are saying go for it . I say 2 wrongs do not make a right but feel myself tempted..Help me -tonight we are going were the men are. Afraid of loosing my morality, my self worth and pride..

realtor, no matter how you look at it, you are still married and it would make you an adulterer. Does that help? Don't go where temptation is.

Realtor,

During my separation, a male friend of mine was very concerned how me & the kids were doing. He would come by often. One night, when we were both alone, I gave in to the temptation to kiss him. It was nice, but I felt very guilty afterward. Here I was standing for my M, wanting my H back & kissing another man! I felt horrible. Right away I recognized it for what it was. A temptation to see how much I was really going to allow God to work. These temptations are going to be thrown at you to see if you end up exactly like your H. Pray that you don't give in to them!

Sometimes you have to go out of the norm & don't listen to your friends! They're not the ones in this M, you are. You know what's right & what your morality level is. Tell that temptation no & continue to do things God's way.

Love in Christ,
Y

Realtor-

I understand the temptation of it, I do. I also understand the 2 wrongs don't make a right....and all that adultery stuff.

I don't advise it, and let me tell you, it's harder than hell for me to resist the temptation too....just to have someone to talk to, it sucks, but I want my husband back.

My WH would also hit the roof, be EXTREMELY jealous, possibly confront the guy....but then I'm thinking he'd think what he was doing was okay, hey she's doing it too......I don't want that, and I don't want the guilt associated with the adultery.

I'm praying to God to give me the strength to make it through this with my sanity and my family in tact.

-Caren

Ya know...my WH wouldn't be jealous at all is I kissed another man. That makes me sad. He keeps telling me that he hopes I meet someone and wants me to be happy. I just don't understand that. Why wouldn't he be jealous that another man was with his wife????
I actually haven't had anyone hit on me since my seperation....is something wrong with me????

Realtor.....You and only you know in your heart what is right for you.

TreeReich,

Hugs to you, {{{{TREEREICH}}}}. When I kissed my friend, I had felt very guilty about it & confessed it to my then WH. He was not bothered by it -- even encouraged me to move forward w/him. He WANTED me to go out on dates! I knew in my heart what God was telling me though, so I stood my ground & didn't give in to the temptation. I also had another temptation that came at me -- my ex-BF from 15 yrs ago had come back into my life as a friend & wanted to go out on a date w/me.

That being said, let me ask you this question -- Would you give in if there were another man hitting on you? If so, how would you feel afterwards? I know that you are done w/your H at this point, but you have been separated for a long time now & are still affected by your H's actions b/c he is still married. How would you feel about yourself if indeed you gave into that as well? Look what happened to believer. She gave in to the temptation & was very upset by it all. Would you want the same for yourself?

I believe, and this is my personal opinion, so take it for what it's worth, but I believe, that God is sparing you from this additional pain. He sees the pain you are going through right now, the agony this man has put you through, so it could very possibly be that God could be waiting until everything is over, your M is completely dissolved, to bring another man to you & give you a 2nd chance at finding love again. He knows how weak your soul is right now & wants to be your H during this time instead of a human man. He knows what your H's capabilities are & how far removed he is from Him. He knows that your H cannot hear anything that He is trying to say to your H, but He also knows that you need someone to rely on, so He wants you to rely on Him. Let God be your H through this & if & when things go forward w/your H, God will know when the right time is for you to be ready to receive another man's love & comfort.

Love in Christ,
Y

Thank you all -I will be strong - it just may be a good daydream to be wanted again. No offense guys but do I really want another man in my life. This one sure has hurt me - maybe being with my WH is enough punishment for now. He wants me back but is not really working on things the right way and still deep in the fog.

Its just I miss being loved so much and feel so alone and without any family near or friends near I need hugs -I am a very loving woman with all the problems with my IL over these 2+ yrs, husband son in Iraq, H having an affair Ifeel like don't I deserve something ???

realtor:

You have been hurt enough by someone else. Why do you want a self-inflicted wound you will never feel good about ?

Realtor, I had teh exact same thing.

I drew from the sitch that i WOULD NOT be alon eif I did not wish to be if my marriage ended.

Then I smiled, told her I was married and moved on.

Look at the stories here. STUDY them. If you find me a SINGLE EXAMPLE where an affair bought anything but a smile to Satan's face, let me know.

They bring guilt, pain, horror, destruction everywhere INCLUDING the 'infidels'. All are victims.