Kimmy you are a very good mother, you LOVE yours, OC's included. You are a good and loyal friend. You are funny, very well educated in many different areas, you are attractive, you are sincere...

I could go on and on. Sometimes I think we have developed such a weak opinion of ourselves because of choices we have made which may have brought down our self-worth...a domino effect. That we loose site of all we really are, our value, our own innocense, our deep desire to be wanted and valued by others.

I don't really know what I am trying to get at here except that you are who you are Kimmy. You don't need to explain, or apologize, or even change the essense of who you are.

As my DD would say, say it loud and say it proud. I AM WHO I AM!

I'm not trying to just puff you up here, I am just sick of the hurt feelings which go un-talked about sometimes on here.

This was one thing I had in mind with this thread. To bring these kinds of things out into the larger board and bring them to light. Star*fish understands this, as does Pep.

We are all hear to learn, as well as to heal. One thing we are trying to learn is how to communicate and discuss without letting it get personal.

Something I have just now been able to start working on after all these years of failed relationships. And not all of the romantic variety. Some with my own siblings, and co-workers.

Star,

What decision did you make regarding your daughter's schooling?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> And if there's an opening for village drunk.....let me know LOL!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh, I'm sorry Starfish, I wear many hats. I'm not only the Queen of I-ville, I'm also the town drunk, seriously. Not sure how I got that title, I rarely drink.

I only got to page 3 of this thread and realy only skimmed it and now my eyes are like this <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I had to chime in though because I feel like an idiot not even knowing what Idiotville is about..I went into the first thread and didnt' understand the purpose of it...havent' been in there since then....I really dont "get it" I guess! anyway, back to your discussions!

From a newbie with a D-Day of 12/18/04 and a recent new resident of I-Ville, I want to say that both the I-Ville thread and all others have been a tremendous help to me. Truthfully, if my marriage survives (and I have great hope it will), it will be because of both. Every person that has ever responded to me outside of I'ville has given me something to get through a tough spot. On several occassions, I've thought I can't stand this pain, I'm just going to file for D. That would be the biggest mistake of my life because I still love my WH very deeply and I want to give Plan A/Plan B a chance. I'Ville is such a neat place for me to forget about the pain for awhile but I know if I want to ask a serious question there, I can. Plus, I know I can say stupid stuff there if I want, which I don't think I've ever had the luxury of doing anywhere else. I think it is good there is a separate place for being silly - separate from the more serious side of things. This comes from a person that has a very dry sense of humor and is not always sure when someone is joking. In I'Ville, I know it without question. Just my 2 cents! I plan to post inside and outside I'Ville because each fills a different need at this critical point in my life and my children's lives.

hmmmm....drunk has been taken huh? How about Dr. Love? hahhahahahhaha

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> hmmmm....drunk has been taken huh? How about Dr. Love? hahhahahahhaha </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh, I see now, you was just feeling left out. Hee hee. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> You can be Dr. Love, now JOIN us. You know you want to, all the cool kids are doing it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

starfish,

I don't think there's a marine biologist over there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I think of I'ville as the break room here.

Dobie

Heh heh, starfish, marine biologist, heh heh.

It's taken me a while to get back. It's been 75o and I've been potting Petunias. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Then the humidity got so bad, I've been lying down. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I have no problem with Iville, I just don't have time for it. But I worry that you all are not taking as much time as you could so that as Pep put it, you could "pay it forward".
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">JL, absolutely, I want to do this, but a lot of my problem really is computer time. My old job let us get away with a bit of personal internal use, my new job at the university logs people’s internet time.

Pep, getting shot full of holes when you’re a FWW seems to sting a bit more if you know what I mean. I often use the analogy that Ginger Rogers used when dancing with Fred Astaire, “he’s great, but I do it backwards in high heels.”

Star*fish, I do know exactly what you mean about like finding like, then concentrating only on that. In “real life” I’m a very friendly but very private person. People imagine I have loads of friends but I have a couple of very good friends that I’m extremely loyal to. It goes with my personality. I’ve always gravitated to small groups where, when I’m known well, I open right up.

BTW, Weaver, “et tu” is Latin and is from Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar. Heh, heh told you I was well educated. Well, I told Idiotville that. LOL.

Kimmy, you're a star on I-ville, you're a star on MB. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Jell, you know I think you rock.

Thank you very much everyone, I can see I do have more to offer than I thought and I’ll try to “pay it forward” as much as I can.

Jen

Jen,

Permit me to let you in on a secret. No one has to know you are a RWW or a RBS or anything. What they need to know is if there is hope. Can this work? How can I make this work? Will the pain stop? Will he or she love me again? Will he or she ever forgive me?

Your answers, your information, your willingness to encourage and guide them is what they need. You have all the knowledge you need. So do many here. I don't think I ever told you if I was a BS or a WS. In fact I am neither.

Do you see my point? Does everyone see my point? If you stay here long enough, what you were is not important to those that need some insight, guidance, a 2X4, or some encouragement. They just need some truth, some experience.

What you and others don't realize is you are like a librarian now. You know which stories will help them. You know that all of these stories have a common theme. You know that patience, and kindness, and time will help them.

Why? Because you have been there and you have been here.

Does this make sense? Please think about it. You are a huge asset here as are many others.

God Bless,

JL

Tom Joad - How could a fireman NOT be smokin hot?
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Yeah, Believer, what is it about firemen?

We used to have loads of false alarms at my old job - someone in the downstairs office used to cook toast at lunch and it used to set off the smoke alarms. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

We used to all stand outside waiting for the fire trucks to arrive and the "young" girls would all say - at least there's an upside to this. We get to see firemen. LOL.

JL, there's the rub. (more Shakespeare LOL) How can I say to someone - gee, I got it and we're all recovered, when they're spouse has already left the marriage or is being a royal PITA. I'd hate to give false hope. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Jen

Jen - And you have to think of the 911 saying:
"While everyone was running out, they were running in". Love those firemen (and women)!

Also just post your story. Don't worry about the consequences. I am much happier WITHOUT my husband. But when I write about it, I don't worry about the members here that will get back together and save their marriage.

How could a fireman NOT be smokin hot?

Wear his gear right!!! He might be hot but he wont be smokin!!!!!!

Besides why would anyone in their right mind walk into a burning buildig with a bottle of compressed air on their back????

Yep, you are right John. A fireman might be hot, but hopefully not smokin hot. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I prefer to think of it as baked and slightly steamed.

Okay - Here's a fireman joke -

One dark night outside a small town, a fire started inside the local chemical plant. Before long it exploded into flames and an alarm went out to fire departments from miles around.
After fighting the fire for over an hour, the chemical company president approached the fire chief and said, "All of our secret formulas are in the vault in the center of the plant. They must be saved! I will give $50,000 to the engine company that brings them out safely!"

As soon as the chief heard this, he ordered the firemen to strengthen their attack on the blaze. After two more hours of attacking the fire, the president of the company offered $100,000 to the engine company that could bring out the company's secret files.

From the distance a long siren was heard and another fire truck came into sight. It was a local volunteer fire company composed entirely of men over 65. To everyone's amazement the little fire engine raced through the Chemical plant gates and drove straight into the middle of the inferno. In the distance the other firemen watched as the old timers hopped off of their rig and began to fight the fire with an effort that they had never seen before.

After an hour of intense fighting the volunteer company had extinguished the fire and saved the secret formulas. Joyous, the chemical company president announced that he would double the reward to $200,000 and walked over to personally thank each of the volunteers. After thanking each of the old men individually, the president asked the group what they intended to do with the reward money.

The fire truck driver looked him right in the eye and said, "The first thing we're going to do is fix the dang brakes on that truck!"

ROFLMAO.

I have a few, but maybe a little to racy to post.

Go John, go. But not too racy.

Here is an EMS one.

To: All EMS Personnel From: Chief of Operations
Subject: Proper Narrative Descriptions

It has come to our attention from several emergency rooms that many EMS narratives have taken a decidedly creative direction lately. Effective immediately, all members are to refrain from using slang and abbreviations to describe patients, such as the following.

Cardiac patients should not be referred to as suffering from MUH (messed up heart), PBS (pretty bad shape), PCL (pre-code looking) or HIBGIA (had it before, got it again).

Stroke patients are NOT "Charlie Carrots." Nor are rescuers to use CCFCCP(Coo Coo for Cocoa Puffs) to describe their mental state.

Trauma patients are not CATS (cut all to ****), FDGB (fall down, go boom), TBC (total body crunch) or "hamburger helper." Similarly, descriptions of a car crash do not have to include phrases like "negative vehicle to vehicle interface" or "terminal deceleration syndrome."

HAZMAT teams are highly trained professionals, not "glow worms."

Persons with altered mental states as a result of drug use are not considered "pharmaceutically gifted."

Gunshot wounds to the head are not "trans-occipital implants."

The homeless are not "urban outdoorsmen," nor is endotracheal intubation referred to as a "PVC Challenge."

And finally, do not refer to recently deceased persons as being "paws up," ART (assuming room temperature), CC (Cancel Christmas), CTD (circling the drain), DRT (dead right there) or NLPR (no long playing records).