Yes today has been one year since WW has left...I will never forget that day for the rest of my life.....But I have learn alot...I have read many books on the subject: His needs Her needs-Love must be tough- Surviving Infideliy-Divorce busting-Making love last forever, Gary smalley-If onle he knew ,understanding your wife-Divorce remidees.And a few more I cant remember....... What have I learned:: IF I knew then what I know now I would have handled it better.....I made alot of mistakes ove the year....I know that you can not control anyone but youself.....crying does not get you anywhere.....Let them go do there thing .......Let it burn like in the song sang by Usher......Back off..........be respectful if you do talk..........Take care of myself and the kids......I have met new friends...because of this and that you know who is a real friend when this happens......I am moving on and if she does come back that will be icning on the cake and if not I will be a better person for the next partner if that is ment to be......I believe that there is a God that is always there for you and I do pray every day......I have learned that my kids are the most important thing in the world to me ,I don't what I would have done with out them...... I have learn that I am a strong person......and a good person....I have learn that my WW was more important to me then my own kids....I smothered her.........I have learned that sex is not everything......She used to tell me" could you just hold me tonight". but no I had to make love every night wheather she did or not...( I would give a million bucks to just be able to hold her now.........)......I don't know what is going to happen but I just know 2005 is going to be a good year........I just know it.....I have become a better dad........I hope the best for WW and I pray she sees the light one day.......

<small>[ January 23, 2005, 03:41 PM: Message edited by: frankd ]</small>

I guess every one is tired of hearing my story.......

No, Frank, I'm not. It was interesting to read your list of what you have learned. I'm only 8 months past D day, really. Some of the things you have listed I'm not there yet. Some I have achieved.

Thanks for sharing. Sounds like you have come a long way. God bless.

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This post of yours tonight is very heart warming.

You have come so far from what I remember.

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