Ummmm... not sure if anyone out there remembers my "situation" - WH w/ multiple affairs, still w/ OW, i wanted to fix things, I finally moved out - was losing my love and respect for him - currently very limited contact but when i do speak to him i'm very civil. Anyway - he called me saturday to let me know he took a job out of state and will be moving sometime next month! I am saddened by this - wasn't convinced things were over for us just yet... now that he'll be moving i'm pretty much thinking this is it. We have lots of lose ends to tie up before he goes - house still for sale, cars to divide and sell, etc...

Not sure what my question is to you all but has anyone dealt with this? The job he took will require a lot of traveling - I'm hoping that ends his relationship with OW. I'm thinking this may be the best thing for me as it may help me move on with my life. He has no interest in reconciling. I'm not sure how to leave things with him... do I just wish him the best and say see ya'... do I write him a letter that will give me some closure by saying things that I haven't said to him yet (as far as how he hurt me and what has upset me the most - which was his disinterest in even trying to fix us before he ditched us) I realize he won't grasp what i'm saying but will it make me feel better???

Anyone have any advice? I'm stunned by his news and saddened that I really won't be seeing him again it seems.

Go to Plan B. NC means only use third party intermediaries. Let him be the one to come to you to say he wants to reconcile and is willing to work on having a great M.


Cherished

Which would require a plan b letter, right?? Does it matter that I really don't think he could give a crap whether he talks to me again or not?? He seems to be having such an easy time of things... that is driving me completely NUTS!

Hi Still:

It's me again with the BROKEN RECORD <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I would recommend the PLAN B LETTER. Why not? You seem to care enough to be posting on this site again. You do not seem to be finished with him....

Hi Mimi! I smiled when I saw you responded... seems I'm not through with him - I think you're right -- a Plan B letter certainly wouldn't hurt and may give me some closure - that will be that - ball will be in his court - i can move on and see where I'm at if he ever de-fogs. And, no contact with him will be very easy with him many states away.

Thanks Mimi. Hope all is well with you!

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