I knew OM before the A happened. And I thought he was a dirtbag then too. Obviously WW didn't ask my opinion of her partner in crime! Oh well I guess they deserve each other...

Miker

Just to lighten things up a bit, I saw a picture of the OW from my EA of 4 years ago. I have no idea what I could possibly have been thinking. Maybe her three remaining green teeth were attractive at the time.....

You truly do turn into a fool at times. No wonder it hurt my wife so much. She is so beautiful....

<small>[ January 24, 2005, 10:58 PM: Message edited by: tanelornpete ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by tanelornpete:
<strong> Just to lighten things up a bit, I saw a picture of the OW from my EA of 4 years ago. I have no idea what I could possibly have been thinking. Maybe her three remaining green teeth were attractive at the time.....

You truly do turn into a fool at times. No wonder it hurt my wife so much. She is so beautiful.... </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thanks for the laugh. I needed that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I knew the OW and as soon my Wh told me about the A, I knew who she was immediately. She has been trying to get involved with my WH and his family for years. I never thought she would snoop so low in malipulating him. (he is to blame too, but she had a game plan and she wasn't going to stop until she gets what she wants) She was married but as I learned OW doesn't have any morals, she didn't have any respect for her own marriage so why should she have any respect for mine.

Anyway, after ten minutes of my Wh telling about his A, the thought came over me Ugh! It was bad enough him telling the news but the thoughts of him with her, disgust me. She is not pretty and pretty plump, even her own husband didn't want to save his marriage with her. He files for DV the day he found out about the A. Why would he stay with a woman who mastermind this whole mess. I pray one day my WH will wake up from his fog and she her for who she really is.

When my WH walked out he told me I was pretty and I can get any guy, but I still want him. It is so hard to believe, I have been dumped for a low life, cheating, malipulating woman who calculated every move to get my WH. Fifteen years and I'm treated like I never existed in his life.

In many cases it's not about the looks. Scum begets Scumbucket. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Seems like when their character takes a dump into the toilet, so do their choices of the OP. Yep...... either from or to the toilet. Not only was I told OW wasn't pretty but that she was hard of hearing and old.

Ok, so you leave your family for a hasbut? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> When I realized she didn't hold a candle or anything else of value to my family, I found his choice funny, hilarious in fact and it sure made going to plan B easier. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.

The OW that my husband got himself tangled up with actually looks like a bassett hound. She has droopy eyes and a droopy mouth. Not to poke fun of John Kerry, but imagine if you will, if he decided to get a sex change....he'd look like her.

Obviously my husband wasn't concerned with looks. I made a joke about her once. I asked him if she was a single bagger or a double bagger? (I'm bad, I know, but I couldn't resist)

I actually saw her a couple of weeks ago. She looked pretty ragged around the edges. I guess hatred and revenge tend to have an effect on one's personal appearance. I may not be pretty on the outside, but it's the inside that matters.

I really pity her, but it's her choice to live the way she does.

You know the OW's are ugly when WHs' even say they are ugly!

This OW has ** eyes, ** for a nose, ** teeth and ** brown hair with streaks in it.

My H said that she is not attractive and that he cannot believe he was with her. Although in his fogged out state shortly after d-day when I asked him how he could have sex with someone so ugly, he said "why is it always about looks with you?" Defending OW's ugliness at the time I suppose...because she was so nice to him. Ugh!

A WS is able to close their eyes to the ugliness because they are getting their egos stroked. I know my H liked that feeling that he was the most attractive, wonderful, perfect man in the world not the overweight, selfish, active alcoholic that he was at the time. What the OW doesn't know is that she was involved with H hitting *bottom*. Isn't that perfect? When H finally hit bottom, the OW was right there with him. Right there with him at the lowest point in his life.

He's been sober now for 15 months and is NOW the most attractive, wonderful, perfect man and I let him know it every day!

Take care all.

sss

**edited to avoid hurt feelings for anyone**

<small>[ January 25, 2005, 11:12 AM: Message edited by: stillsosad ]</small>

The alien continues to say that he is not happy with the Ogre, that he never will be happy with her!

momto..I hope this is NOT stuff you are hearing or listening to now..

hope you are staying dark....out of his chaos...

protect yourself...

ARK (though I would never deny you a tiny rant as this one.....)

M23,
No comments about the ogre... fortunately..I've never had the misfortune of seeing our demon. But I did want to add how incredible proud of you I am.
It's about time you see your worth..and how much better YOU are.

Love ya.

It just doesn't make any sense to me....I mean, I don't think even if my EN's weren't being met (and they weren't) I wouldn't be attracted to the advances of someone gross. I have men hit on me all the time. Shortly after I moved out I took my DD10 to an art festival with a friend of mine. The fire department had set up a trailer the kids go through to learn fire safety..etc., well my DD10 wanted to go thru this thing 20 times, so I was just sitting on the curb waiting, and a fireman came up and started talking to my friend and myself. (She's only 21 and drop dead gorgeous) He said "You look familiar." and my friend said "I do, hmmmm wonder where I could know you from." He said "Oh, I'm sorry, I wasn't talking to you, I meant her..."(Me) LMFAO I said "Ummmm I don't know, I used to waitress at XXXXXXX's" He said "I'm not sure" and kept talking and talking and flirting. I finally said, "So, are ya married?" I thought he said "No" so I said "Well why the heck not?" And he said "I said yes, I am married...." I said "Oh, sorry...LOL" No ring, flirting up a blue streak, REALLY cute...and I was like.....yeah, I don't think so.

-Caren

P.S. - My friend was like "Damn, he picked you over me." I said "Yeah, well....I've got it like that" LMFAO!!!!

<small>[ January 25, 2005, 10:46 AM: Message edited by: HopefulinNY ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Also the sad thing is how many here will divorce tiring of waiting for the fog to clear to have the WS come around and notice what they had was so much better then what they got and want it back, sometimes it will be too late.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hi HINY...NO here <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> your quote above is sad but true...for me personally the profile of OW fits in with everyone's previous posts...my STBX told me these facts about her when I asked...she was unattractive..told me I was much more attractive than her..she was a nobody...we were a prominent couple in the community...and she had nothing...when he met her she had three problem children and was on welfare...so the question is why do these men who seem to have it all go this route...with great interest I have followed Momto 3boy's story... her WS and mine seem to have very similar profiles.. both professionals..both controllers with arrogance thrown in to stir the pot...I can only speak for my situation but I think these WS's chose these OP because they are needy and the OP put them high on a pedastal..at home there are day to day responsibilites and a certain level of standards to maintain...with these needy OP they get to forget all this and are adored by the OP because OP's know their ticket to easy street has just arrived at the track...(by the way my STBX's OW is a LPN at a nursing home as well)...this fantasy life will continue for awhile but after time reality will set in...why ...because they are from two different worlds...two much history to forget from previous life...these WS's who exude these characteristics have to do things on their time and schedule and expect everyone else around them to wait until they hit rock bottom...and believe me they do hit rock bottom..the choice as BS's is do we wait and continue to let them have the contol and keep us in limboland or do we take back our lives and control and do something for us... everyone has to make that choice for themselves.. the timeline is what you can endure and keep from being drug down in the mire...my choice was to detach to lesson the pain...the fence sitting was killing me ...believe me detachment is so much easier and enables to BS to work on herself and become stronger...

The OW in our past was (might still be, I don't know) very pretty. She was blessed with a nice figure and a lovely voice. She was an excellent cook too. Her sense of humor was also attractive.

Infidelity is not a beauty contest between wife and OW. There is no "winner" taking home the prize of an unfaithful man.

It occurs to me that this thread could be very hurtful to other posters on MB who are not of ideal body weight, do not have good teeth or hair.... and I wonder if this might be silently slapping another MBer in the face unintentionally?

There was a discussion years ago about how "fat and disgusting the blubbery butt " of the OW was. And I know many BW were hurt by that discussion because they too were overweight.

Please be kind to other MBers.

Thanks

Pep

Pepper,

You are a class act!

Pep,
Point taken! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Pep,
Point taken! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Oh goodness!! LMFAO!!!!!!!!!

caren, I have read many of your posts...you are an amazing woman with a great outlook and an even better sense of humour....

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Keebler elf on crack.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Someone scrape me off the floor!!!!!!!!

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I read this thread last night and wasn't going to respond, but you know, what is the purpose of it? To make ourselves feel better by bashing the OW?

In alot of cases, we don't know the OW. And I'm speaking of us who DON'T know the OW. All we know is what she and HE has done to us.

I don't know the OW in my case, never even seen a picture of her and even if I have, who am I to judge her by her looks. No, I don't like what she did, but you know what she wasn't alone in it and she didn't do it by herself. And like it's been said over and over, it's not the looks that matter anyways.

I'll be the first to admit, I am totally guilty of bad mouthing her ACTIONS. I don't agree with it, I don't like what she did, I can't believe someone would hurt someone else like that, especially gone through this herself. But it takes two to tango. And I'm sure when all of this first start yeah I probably attacked her "character" also. But what does it get you, absolutely NOTHING.

I'm not the most skinnest person out there, and my looks, I guess average. Don't you think your energy would be better server focusing on something else other than her looks.

If I pissed anyone off, sorry.

My WH told me that OW was "no spring chicken". I think I met her once and she was short and plain. (And I'm always going to hold to that thought no matter what!) She's got a worse Midwestern accent than I do. No offense to the area of my birth but I've stopped "worshing e'er onct in awhaaale."

Who knows? Especially since the Infidelity diet has worked such wonders on me.

2be I agree with you but at the same time if you are in a R with a repeat offender and you notice a trend in these women Doesn't it at some point lead to a serious complex I know mine has. I just look at these women and think to my self if this is the kind of woman he wanted why did he waste my time and his.