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You went through it? man you did not learn much. Like I said you do not have the financial facts so your humble opinion is shall I say WORTHLESS?
Good vs Evil? ROTFLMAO
I love this site.
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<small>[ January 26, 2005, 04:57 PM: Message edited by: dalson ]</small>
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There's no sense in engaging someone like dirtdevil who has a maturity level less than that of my 12 yr old son. And who doesn't have the guts to post who they are in relation to mom. Whether it be the OW, WH or some troll. It says alot about their intentions and character, or should I say lack thereof. And an excruciating lack of courage. Now Mom, I've been a lurker here for a couple years now and just want to let you know that alot more people than who have posted to your threads care about you and your family. You are a special lady. Draw strength from your kids. It's obvious that your WH isn't looking out for thier best interests so that will fall solely on your shoulders. They need you to be there for them. They need the protection only you can provide since your WH is in a fog and ego induced psychosis... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Please see a lawyer asap and don't fall for your WH's lunacy. You do have rights and you will have control. You just need to grab ahold of it and not let it go. If WH tries to engage you imagine him as a zombie. He seemingly doesn't have a soul or conscience, or if he does it's hidden very well. Right now, your focus needs to be on you and your boys. Try to take your eyes off what your WH is doing and make a plan for yourself. There are lots of wonderful people here that can help you with that. God Bless You Mom, take good care of yourself and boys.
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Cover your eyes, MBers, I'm about to DJ: You said, DD: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I love this site. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I would caution you on your use of the word love . It seems that your definition is far more perverse and twisted than everyone else's here. Your use of the word and emotion have taken that gift and mutilated it into something that is worth less than something nasty you step in and scrape off your shoe. Perhaps someday you will heal from your perversion. Till then, leave mom and the boys out of your love as much as possible. You are already mauling their souls with your deformed love and cruel selfishness. Get help. For once in your life, do something selfless instead of selfish and fix yourself. EVERYONE will be better for it. You, your boys, your wife...even that youngun on the way... Think of them, Ed. It's time. If you can't...leave them alone.
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Mom23Boys -- "dirtdevil" has said it all with his posts on this thread, and said it far better than I ever could. If his posts here don't open your eyes, I don't think anything will.
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x-D23B- present Dirtdevil (sorry for the thread jack M23B) I am not sure what you are hopeing to gain by being nasty. A divorce is hard on children when it is civil- when you add another woman, another POSSABLE sibling, and nasty fighting parents it makes it unliveable- as well as screwing them up mentally for relationships of their own, Please take a step back and look at what you are doing.
You left your wife for another woman- a wife who has stood behind you through everything- gave you 3 beautiful children and has taken care of those 3 while you are out haveing a mid life crisis.
You are being unjustly rude. If you have nothing to say that is nice or at least pleasent then please find your manners (or at least your bedside manners and fake it) and bow out of M23B's support network. You are doing nothing good here- nothing good can come from this.
You have made a choice to walk away from a wife and children- one day you will realize what you did and regret it- even if you do find happiness elsewhere you will still not be whole or get past this. My mother cheated on my father for years and eventually left my dad for him. Granted they are both happy now my mom still struggles EVERYDAY with the pain she inflicted on her children (this is 12years later). She has to watch as her children struggle with trust issues. SHe also had to watch me struggle and suffer from the pain that my H's affair inflicted on me, and it brought it all back- and made her realize what she really did- while she is no longer fogged!
SO I plead with you Dirtdevil/D23B look deep inside yourself- find your heart and stop hurting your children and your wife- because even if you get a divorce hurting their mother is hurting them.
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Ed,
The first thing to do when you find yourself in a hole - stop digging!! I mean STOP. Really.
Since you apparently can't do that, there's only one other possibility. You are apparently so filled with hate for anyone who gets in the way of ***editted for TOS Compliance****, and anyone who helps your once-beloved-by-you wife get the emotional fortitude to accept that there is life after marriage to a ***editted for TOS Compliance****....
I guess you just want to give her one more reason to leave. That could be the only possible explanation for the actions of one who considers himself remotely adult.
Where's the pukey smiley when you need one? I gotta hurl!
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Mom should not read any of those posts at all she is in PP and needs to stay as far away as possible from her dh and the ow.
This is possibly her dh's way at "reaching" her. Please don't encourage him to post here. Mom does not need to read anything here from him.
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Lets see my happiness is her destruction or is it my destruction is her happiness? hopefully these are not mutually inclusive.
Ed, the best thing that could happen to her is for you to realize that her happiness is yours and your happiness is hers. You have not acted with her best interest in mind. What she is doing is protecting herself from your destruction while still, incredibly, leaving the door open for you to wake up.
Now that MT3B will no longer be part of a threesome, you must choose, and this is your choice:
- a woman who committed to love you for life and has shown that commitment by removing herself from you but not shutting the door to future reconciliation, who has had three children by you, and to whom you made a commitment to love for life.
- a woman who has a child by another man and is due to have a child, possibly by you, in the next several weeks; a woman who knowingly got involved with a married man, who was willing to help you betray your marriage vows and terribly hurt a person she didn't even know.
My husband told me something once which I thought was very true: "You cannot separate the person from the circumstances."
Even as a BS, I feel a great deal of concern for you. MT3B has had a terrible year, but if you choose to continue the path you are on, she will go on and have a life filled with the joy of caring for three precious children who, thankfully, are small enough that they yet have time to repair in childhood some of the damage from the past year. You on the other hand are likely to know the full brunt of the Dr. Phil saying, "If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you." You won't ever quite trust your lover because you know she is not trustworthy. She'll hurt others to get her way. If she finds another man to be more attractive to her than you, why wouldn't she hurt you? Was it not agreed between you and your wife that she was to have a paternity test for the child she now carries? If you are done with your wife and will divorce her and marry this woman, are you going to go ahead with a paternity test or will you assume the child is yours? What about the next time she is pregnant? Will you assume that that child is yours as well?
Think about it. You still have time. There comes a point when a woman is no longer open to reconciliation. MT3Bs has not gotten there yet. Now that's commitment. Those three boys are all yours. You don't ever have to worry about a paternity test on those children.
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Mom - Plan B means not reading DD's drivel anymore. Plan B means he doesn't get to see what you think or how his actions hurt you anymore - he can wonder if you have moved beyond the pain all he wants because you are a blank screen to him.
I'd love to be part of your support network by e-mail. starfish has it I believe. You have tons of friends here. Go to an e-mail place with us, and let the curtain fall on any posts here while you find your peaceful, free place in life.
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there all gone. all other posters follow my lead
<small>[ January 26, 2005, 04:56 PM: Message edited by: dalson ]</small>
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Spoke to Mom - she's quit reading once she saw Ed here.
I suppose we all should do the same. It's obvious that he only listens to the voices in his own head, anyway.
We're wasting typing time trying to reason with the unreasonable.
Love to you all who care for mom and dad and their little guys.
- Kimmy
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Lets see my happiness is her destruction or is it my destruction is her happiness? hopefully these are not mutually inclusive. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">OOOOhhhhh do I get a vote ? I vote for the latter <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Any body got a coin to throw in the wishing fountain ? Boy do I have a wish !!!!
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Mom -
Call me stupid, but I refuse to believe that DD is dad posting. I have read your story from the beginning. He was always kinda "addicted" to OW, but never intentionally cruel. I refuse to believe that it is dad.
What a cruel joke.
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Regardless of WHO the dd maybe..... looks like it is time to pull the cord out of the socket. We don't need to feed the dirtdevil the attention he craves by allowing him to continue this kind of BS bashing .... there's another site that likes t/d that. BTW, it is very possible dd is who he appears t/b.... can't imagine the OW is that smart. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> L. <small>[ January 26, 2005, 05:19 PM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>
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* Lurker coming out to post *
The chance that the person posting these nasty replies is possibly a doctor or a nurse sickens
me . Would you want this sort of nut job taking care of you ? . Man , if only thier patients could see them now . Someone should print these for Mom . Seriously , If Isp's match up , this could be good for her to have , shows a different side of someone that they probably want to keep hidden away when custody comes up .
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by believer: <strong> Mom - Call me stupid, but I refuse to believe that DD is dad posting. I have read your story from the beginning. He was always kinda "addicted" to OW, but never intentionally cruel. I refuse to believe that it is dad. What a cruel joke. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Believe it believer! It is very hard to believe that he can be so cruel as he is being right now...He's throwing a hissy fit cuz I'm not jumping when he says jump as I have done in the past...so he comes here to piss me off... It is very for me understand how the man that I once loved and cherished, the man I gave birth to three children with, the man I have built my life around would do this...This is NOT the man I married...I dont know where that man is or if he will ever come around...but right now this man is really showing what he has become over the past year...and even more so over the past month... Anyway, I wont be posting on this thread any longer, and frankly I dont think i will be posting on this board any longer...it is not safe for me. many of you have my email addy...I will post it here and keep it up for anyone who wishes to email me...thank you so much for your support! kandi@caveda.com
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by believer: <strong> Mom - Call me stupid, but I refuse to believe that DD is dad posting. I have read your story from the beginning. He was always kinda "addicted" to OW, but never intentionally cruel. I refuse to believe that it is dad. What a cruel joke. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Believe it believer! It is very hard to believe that he can be so cruel as he is being right now...He's throwing a hissy fit cuz I'm not jumping when he says jump as I have done in the past...so he comes here to piss me off... It is very for me understand how the man that I once loved and cherished, the man I gave birth to three children with, the man I have built my life around would do this...This is NOT the man I married...I dont know where that man is or if he will ever come around...but right now this man is really showing what he has become over the past year...and even more so over the past month... Anyway, I wont be posting on this thread any longer, and frankly I dont think i will be posting on this board any longer...it is not safe for me. many of you have my email addy...I will post it here and keep it up for a day or so for anyone who wishes to email me...thank you so much for your support! kandi@caveda.com
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Orchid:
Did you or someone prior report "dustbunny's" posts? If so, I won't. If not, I shall.
Doesn't matter whether it's d23b, the OW, or Josef Stalin. Poster is a harmful troll. All posts should be deleted and the poster banned.
end of discussion,
-ol' 2long
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