Hi there - I'm not sure if this question has been asked before, but I would find it helpful to hear from Betraying Partners who had a good and stable marriage, but fell head over heels in love with someone else and left their spouse. Can you tell me what made you leave, how long the heat between you and the AP continued and if you regreted leaving, or returned, to your first spouse. For Affair Partners, can you tell me how long you were in an intense love affair with the married person, if they left their spouse for you, and what the outcome was? I think many of us will find this really helpful. Thanks. GS

GS,

Your question while good, seems a bit vague. In order for us to help you....please share a bit more.

Thanks,
L.

My question is posed to get an idea if there are folks who left their marriages and subsequently realized it was all a big mistake, regardless of whether or not the returned to their spouse. All the statistics I've read indicate that a very, very small percentage of these ilicit love affairs result in actual marriage of the Betraying Spouse and other person. Yet, I keep coming across examples of relationships in my life where the parties continue to stay together. My H has been living with the OW and her three kids for six months and we're proceeding to divorce. It breaks my heart that he hasn't caught her in enough of her lies (and believe me, she's told him some doozies), which indicates that reality still has not set in. I'm curious as to what other's have experienced as a betraying spouse or affair partner (i.e., when did reality hit and how did it feel). GS