WH birthday is next week. I was wondering if I should send a little gift. More like I'm thinking of you today.

I haven't received anything from him since last Valentine's. (Nothing romantic, a dinner at a chain restaurant and a card with "Happy Valentine's Day" on it, nothing about love mentioned on the card.) Oh, he did serve me DV papers on our Anniversary, how thoughtful.

My birthday and Christmas both past without even a card. He did call me two days after my b-day, saying he didn't call me because he thought I wouldn't want to hear from him. I haven't talked to him at all since mid-December.

His birthday last year, we had a wonderful time. We went away for the weekend, just the two of us without any distruptions and it gave me such hope. The OW found out and she did everything in her power to make sure we didn't work things out. Boy, I wished I knew about this website at that time.

Anyway, Should I send a card, wishing him well, nothing mushy, just your in my thoughts.

I wouldn't send him anything. Let him see how it feels to not have you with him on his special day. I say NO!!!!!
My WH (STBX) b-day is next month and I'm not doing a darn thing for him.

NO, do not give him anything for his birthday! My WH's is Saturday..the kids made him a Bear at the Build a Bear factory and that is what he got! Do not give your H's birthday another thought! He can stew with his OW on that day! Besides that, it would mean more to YOU than to HIM if you got him something. If you have kids, together, then let the kids give him something, but not you!

Do not send him anything, Let him figure out that he doesn't deserve anything on his birthday. My B-day is on first week of feb. and I already know that my WW will not do anything cause she is still living in the fog. Well in your case if, I was in your shoes I will not send him anything at all. I will pretend that I forgot about his birthday. I know that he is always going to be on the picture but not let him feel the way with out you on his life.