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i am in my situation because of my attempted affair....cindy lost our babies in the 4th months and we/i fell apart...i couldnt confort her or me...i turned to the internet and found a potential willing affair...i couldnt go through with it....cindy found out, kicked me out in nov03...we got back together 2/04 and she had an affair in march...i forgave her...she kicked me out again in 9/04 as she thinks i was trying to cheat again....i was not or even thinking about it...i am lost ....i need help and support and i am turning here for this
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Welcome to marriagebuilders. It is a great place to be under the circumstances.
Lots of people here have survived affairs and gone on to have a better marriage. Check out the emotional needs questionnaire on the home page, and see if your wife will fill it out.
Why did she think you were having another affair?
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she wont...we have not spoken since oct...we are done i know....she found old emails from when we were seperated in nov03 from match .com...she knew i was on there and that i got off the site...even though i did that, match auto renewed my membership and we both found out at the same time as it showed up on a credit card bill...the date of auto renewel was the tme when we were on a cruise in the bahamas...i didnt do it and i knew nothing of it until the statement
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i tried to have an affair the first time...i went on match as she would not speak to me except to say we were over...when we got back together i told her i was on matc and she saw me get off the site....
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You don't think she is having another A do you? I hope not and I hope you get this worked out.
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she is seeing others...i am not...and this will not be worked out...i have accepted this...i feel so alone and lonely...there is so much more going on that it would take me an hour to type it....i just want to move on and she is holding me hostage trying to extort $$ from me ...over a new house we were building...she is in the old house...and the new house was built with my retirement money...
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Okay, so you do talk to her. Check out Plan A on the link in my sig line. That is the starting plan. Also, be sure you do not date. It is necessary to work on yourself before you make any decisions.
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^^bump^^
KA was having a real rough night last night...he also works 14 hour days...
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