I told STBXH (ok, maybe not that soon, soon-to-be-ex-h)on Wednesday that I wanted a Div.

WH has been calling my mother and now my sister in law (my brother's wife) telling them how much he wants to save the marriage (NOW??). My SIL knows my situation so she defended my decision with him.

My mom is a whole different case. She even gave my phone number to her priest for him to call me because I want to get a divorce and not give my WH a last chance. She does not understand that the garbage WH is telling her now is what he was feeding my during all my other attempts to save my marriage and every time he failed to NC OW. Even now that he has changed his Cell number still calls her to fight and today saw her to give OW her stuff back and get his. WHat the Heck!

I feel bad with my mom because I hung up the phone once on her and even yelled once to her to try to make her understand my point of view. She called me hard headed and stubburn "like my dad" and gave me the "young people does not want to listen to the elders anymore that know better because of experience" speech. That I will be sorry for making a decision "that quick"(!)


WH sent me 2 flower arrangements and bottle of wine with chocolates and told everyone I did not care for them. I did said thanks and they were beautiful but he can not expect that will fix the problem. Like I told my SIL, if H send flowers "just becasue" when everything is find in the relationship it is the best thing in the world. When H send flowers to make up for an A, they are not worth it.

Oh well! just venting again. Can not believe he is using my family to get to me.

Love

It's amazing to me who and how they will use people to get what they want.
At least your WH is showing that he wants to save the marriage. It may be too late...I don't know your whole situation but at least he's showing some interest.
My WH walked out and that's it!!! I think it would at least help me if I knew he wanted me back. I just don't know how someone can jst walk out after being married for 15 years.

Anyway....I wish you the best. Hang in there!

We go to their heart through their stomach and they do through our family? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
(Mine did and still does too, but I got used to my parents' wish to reconsider some decisions...)

If this is his first A and prior to it he was a very good husband to you, you were happy with, and he's worth of fighting for him - I'd say as your mom <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> , give him another chance.

Make a list of things you need from him to stay in M, and he should do his, then follow if his words equal his actions.

Think twice cut once <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> , unless I missed (and I often do) that you already did...