Ok....I think I have my WH confused! LOL!
He sent me an email this morning wanting to know why I'm being so nice and pleasant to him. He says he hopes that means I've let go of the anger and revenge. ???????

He also said he talked to his nieces (their parents got divorced because their Mom had several affairs). He says he's very impressed how mature they are. I'm not sure why he had to tell me that. I'm sure if he talked to them that they weren't totally honest about how they feel. Their Mom told me that they are very angry with my WH and also with their own father. He got remarried this weekend and they hate his new wife. The new wife doesn't like kids too much.
Anyway....he's confused why all of a sudden I'm talking to him (only about our son) and thinks maybe I'm healed!!!! WTF?????????????

Just venting.....I'm just so sick of this man.

Vent away that is what we are here for!

Tree, I'm sick of him too! He keeps trying to grab hold of anything to make him feel better about his poor choices. "See Tree, my nieces'dad had an A, and look how mature they are!" This man is so transparent. CV

RHMike....I'll just vent away!!!!! LOL... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

CV55....You're right. I thought the same thing. That's exactly what he's doing. I feel like responding and saying...."the reason I'm being so nice, you jerk, is because I'm trying to get everything I want.....I'm hoping you'll fold and give in to what I want in this divorce." UGGGHHHH!!!! He just makes me SOOOOOOOOO angry!!!!

HA HA HA....it's fantastic when you confuse them with kindness.

I would just ignore his e-mail and keep being nice, act like you don't know what he's talking about LMFAO

@sshole...LOL

-Caren

Stay dark Trish.

Caren... Like my mom says..."kill em with kindness." Hehehehehehe!!!!

Tom..... I plan on it...I will stay dark. Let him wonder!

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tree...
he is very funny...

Infact I think he could be on the TBS commercial where you call a central command post ...to asses if something is funny...

can you see it???

it would go like this...


"TBS FUNNY WHAT CAN I HELP YOU WITH..."

"YEAH HI"..THIS IS TREE..."I HAVE HUSBAND WHO IS DATING ANOTHER GIRL...AND THINKS I HAVE ISSUES...
IS THIS FUNNY?"

TBS OPERATOR SAYS..."DOES HE CONTACT YOU OFTEN"...

TREE..."YES HE IS CONSISTANTLY EMAILING ME TELLING ME I HAVE EMOTIONAL ISSUES...AND THINKS I HAVE ANGER ISSUES...."

TBS OPERATOR....
"IS HE CHANGING THE DEFINITION OF THINGS KIND OF LIKE BILL CLINTON..."

TREE..
"YES EXACTLY...HE REFUSES TO CALL OUR DIVORCE A DIVORCE AND WANTS TO CALL IT A DISSOLUTION TO AN EIGHT YEAR OLD..."

TBS...
"ARE HIS EMAILS LONG OR SHORT?"...

TREE..
"OH THEY ARE LONG LONG LONG...INFACT HE TYPES THESE LONG DIATRIBES FROM HIS GIRLFRIENDS COMPUTER...AND HE CALLS HIS ABONDONMENT OF ME AND HIS CHILD A GIFT TO ME...."

TBS..
"REALLY?..SCMUCK.....THAT JUST SENDS THIS UP THE FUNNY METER A GOOD TEN POINTS..."

TBS ..."SO LETS CALCULATE THIS..
HE'S OVER AT GIRLFRIENDS HOUSE WRITING YOU LONG EMAILS...OF NONSENSE ...
MASKED IN SOME WARPED ZEN-LIKE PHILOSOPHY...
TELLS YOU THAT YOU HAVE ISSUES...
AND CAN NOT RESIST FOCUSING ON YOU AND CONTACTING YOU??"

TREE
"YEP!!!!!!!!!!!! EXACTLY!!".....

TBS
"OH THIS IS VERY FUNNY...
TREE... GO AHEAD AND LAUGH...."

ark <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

ark....that was hysterical!!!!!! Thanks for the laugh! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

ark....that was hysterical!!!!!! Thanks for the laugh! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Tree, its no longer funny what a d1ckwad your WH is.

Lately he's either trying to NASTY you into 'allowing' him to cake eat or he is trying to NICE you into floppy-brained forgiveness of his abandonment of you.

This latest " look, divorce has been THERAPUTIC for your neices" is just enough to make me blow chunks.

You should stay VERY dark Trish, don't even talk to him directly about Cam.

He offers you nothing but hardship and violation but wants your goodwill to shag his french bird in teh face of your marriage vows and cam's best interests.

Sorry trish. I think the high calibre bulet in the ear is still the kindest way to go <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
{{{{trish}}}}
{{{{Cam}}}}

Bob,
So true! It really isn't funny how he thinks everything will be "just fine". He's trying to make me see things his way...NOT!!!!! I don't agree with what he's done and never will no matter how he tries to justify it! It really frustrates me how he turns things around to suit himself and what he's doing. Bottom line is : He abandoned his family and left for another woman! UUUGGGHHHHH!!!!

triple post.....how does this happen to me? LOL

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Wow...That was hilarious...about the whole TBS thing. I'd say funny meter is up 20 points b/c he is a complete idiot.

Now here's my experience...he believes (and it is in his foggy mind very zen like) that Voila! She has come around. She is nice to me. She must understand why this is this way. And he probably talked to get VALIDATION in some sick way from the other two children.

This is about him. It's about him being able to RECONCILE HIS GUILTY LITTLE MIND. He's not having any breakthru.

He's a classic cakeman.

And you stay dark. Keep those cool shades on girl. Let him sink.

Incidentally, my xh always thinks whenever I deal with him "nicely" over any issue that I am "over it" and that I have "accepted it". Nope. I don't validate anything. And whenever he has he cajones to say that to me, I say "no, I don't validate your marriage. But I am good to you b/c you are my son's father and we have to raise this child peacefully." I make sure he gets it. And oh, I stay dark. I keep my shades on. I don't deal with the man unless it is an issue regarding my son or is an issue regarding finances.

I let it go.

Don't figure him out. Just assume that it's "all about him". Unless he calls you up and say he's had a huge epiphany and blurts out how much of a lying and deceptive creep he's been, I wouldn't ever return his call...unless YOU have something to say about the kids or about finances.

I agree that he wants validation for what he's doing. I WILL NOT give that to him. I plan on staying dark. He has to reap what he's sewn.

I try not to deal with him in any way unless it is about our son. Unfortunately, I have to see him twice a week now because of baseball. I'll have to see him tomorrow. YUK! Everyone knows what he's done so I don't know how comfortable he will be. I hope he's totally miserable!!!!

I can't wait for the day when he means nothing to me.

I agree that he wants validation for what he's doing. I WILL NOT give that to him. I plan on staying dark. He has to reap what he's sewn.

I try not to deal with him in any way unless it is about our son. Unfortunately, I have to see him twice a week now because of baseball. I'll have to see him tomorrow. YUK! Everyone knows what he's done so I don't know how comfortable he will be. I hope he's totally miserable!!!!

I can't wait for the day when he means nothing to me.