Hi everyone,
I'm just looking for some advice. I have been married for 12 yrs. My h and I over the past couple of yrs have become disengaged. We stopped telling each other how we felt.We never really new how to talk to eachother we dated since we were 14 and 15 and we are now 30 with two lovely children.Well last month i discovered my husband started having feelings for someone else. A co-worker.They were just begining. He bought her a little something for x-mas.Thats how i found out. After we started talking we realized how strong our feelings were for eachother.That was it she was nothing to him.My question is this all also started over alot of stress my h had he worked full time with overtime and went to school full time. The new semester just started so far he is taking two classes he needs one more to get his b-degree they want to give it to him but hes not sure if he should take it. He does'nt want to be away to long. I dont know want to tell him hes been going to school nites for 9 yrs. after may it will be over.I dont know what to do. Things are going great for us. I still do have many triggers. I don't want to be the one that keeps him from this.
The other question i had we also over the weeekend got a new car. Was this stupid? Its only been a little over a month since D-day.WE do know were we want to be and it is with eachother.
Thanks
LL

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by lastinglove:
My h and I over the past couple of yrs have become disengaged. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is a bad habit more than a lack of communication skills, I think.

Make it your business to ENGAGE.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well last month i discovered my husband started having feelings for someone else. A co-worker.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It is important to know if your H ever expressed his feeling to the OW co-worker. Did he? If he did, your H should not be working with her...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My question is this all also started over alot of stress my h had he worked full time with overtime and went to school full time. The new semester just started so far he is taking two classes he needs one more to get his b-degree they want to give it to him but hes not sure if he should take it. He does'nt want to be away to long. I dont know want to tell him hes been going to school nites for 9 yrs. after may it will be over.I dont know what to do.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">POJA this ... search the site and read all about POJA, and solve this problem with your husband.

Good luck.

Pep

<small>[ February 01, 2005, 10:38 AM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>