I have been reading posts for about a week now. and it seems like all the ones i have read about recovering seems to take about a year and a half or more. I don't know if i can do it for that long. My d-day was dec. 10th. My WW still says the same thing that we should have never been married and stuff like that but yet she says she is unsure of whether or not she want to stay married. I don't know how much more of this I can take. I feel as though as each day goes by I am getting closer and closer to just calling the lawyer and filing for divorce. Sometimes I feel like there is no hope in ever being happily married to my WW ever again. If she doesn't decide soon I feel like I am gonna have to decide for her and just end it. I feel like I just need to end it and find someone else. I am still only 30. What if she decides to stay and then 2 years down the road she wants a divorce than I would have wasted another 2 years of my life where I could have moved on? I just don't know what to do. I guess do I stay and gamble or do I move on?

Runner -read plan A again -it is not easy but improve yourself. All this is still new and the shock has not worn off yet. No LB's and try to not listen to the fog. My Wh told me I should thank OW for making himcome back to me. She was done with him. I found out about the A after it was almost over it went on for almost 2years. I also thought it was one woman and actually one was EA the other was the start of a PA. I ended the PA one last August. He is totally committed its me who is not. Not yet and maybe never again.

What you are feeling is normal. What you're WW is saying is normal. Step back and relax for a minute. I am reading a book now called After the Affair. I recommend you read this as well as Surviving an Affair. The info in them will help you cope.

I can offer you advice on what not to do, I am experiencing the same thing, but have made many mistakes. First, do not LB. Second, do not grovel or chase.

Someone with mor experience will be along to help you soon. Just sit tight and don't make your sitch worse (I know, crazy concept, you are the BS, I just don't want you to do anything that are going to limit your future options.)