Anyone heard any of these after 19 years of marriage and care to comment?

1. I have never loved you.
2. I did not want to get married.
3. There are plenty of women out there that would love to have you.
4. You are a great father and husband but….
5. You were never there for me.
6. You control me.
7. You are paranoid.
8. You have jealousy problem.
9. He is just a good friend.
10. He helps me with my problems.
11. I have always wanted to be on my own.
12. Please move on with your life as I have.
13. We don’t have a normal relationship.
14. I have lost all this weight because of stress and that is why I bought new clothes and underwear.

Also, why does the WS alienate themselves from the established friends and develop new friends that don’t know the BS? My WS now hates all of her old friends.

U found the WS handbook? Keep seeing pages out of it but never saw the cover. LOL!!!

Yes, unfortunately these are classic WS lines. Many of us have heard what you wrote verbatim. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

As to your question about alienation of real/old friends or questionable new friendships, etc. That's because the WS is not your W. Inhabits the same body, same fingerprints but if you notice, the scent, eyes and personality has changed. Into a being like no other. Kinda scary. More fog babble will emit and their actions are not normal. Some have even abandoned their families and said it was a good thing. One of the BS' on here said her WS told their child that the parents were getting a 'dissolutionment' not a divorce. The WS didn't want to use the word divorce. Same effect though. Who do they think they are fooling? Apparently themselves but not the rest of sane mankind. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

How are you doing? How can we help you?

L.

Hey! I recognize all those lines! Have you been talking to my WW?

Orchid is right - an alien has taken over your wife.

I'm so sorry about all this. It was 18 years for me before I heard them all...

We're here for you

David

I have actually heard them 3 times (1995, 2000 and this year). She has moved out. (You may want to read some of my other threads on my WW. It is quite bizarre?

Any suggestions? Should I contact her IC as she will not let me go to her IC? I am in IC also.

How long will the fog last? Will she come back? I have been good to her through all of this. Maybe I should get tough?

NO telling how long the fog will last. It varies with lots of variables.

Howz about your IC talking with her IC? That way no breech of confidence stuff. More like consulting between peers?

I will review your other thread and get back to you later. You will find you are not alone in this situation. Waaay to much experience with this A stuff just on this board. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Stick around, we can help.

take care,
L.

I got those lines from the WS book, 7 yrs married, 12 together. Very repetative arent they?????

sorry, double post

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