I'm a newbie, so forgive me if I don't know all the acronyms. I found out in November that my husband was using hookers (how many times, I don't know). Found out 'cause his cell phone "phantomly" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> called me right in the middle of one of his "encounters" and I got to hear his moaning and groaning...nice way to find out, huh?

Anyway, my circumstance seems to be a little different since I know he doesn't love these other women...

We're seeing a therapist and he's on Zoloft to curb his sexual appetite. He told me this morning he didn't do "it" to hurt me...hah! What did he THINK it would do, make me happy??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Anyway, anyone else have a similar circumstance? Problem #2 is that it's spilling over into my parenting, too. Kids seems to sense something and therefore their behavior is very trying at times (6 and 9 yr old daughters); married 15 years

AB, first let me say welcome to MBers, sorry you have to be here but never the less welcome.

How does a cell phone call you all by itself? This sounds a bit bizzare to me. Is it possible it was intentional? Would he be that cruel. Did he want to get caught? Has your H stopped contact with these other women? ARe you sure? If so how does he feel about that?

Do you feel that there is a sexal addition problem? Has SF (sexual fulfillment) been a issue in your M(marriage)?

I know there are others that have or are on this board that have the issues with call girls but it's amazing how many similarities there are to all A (affairs) regardless of the circumstance.

On your children. A, cheating, betrail, call it what you will always effects the kids. None of us live in a vacum. Does your H understand what impact he is having on them? Of course I'm not even touching on the dangers from disease.

Have you read any on the main portion of this site. The information there is extremely helpful regardless of you circumstance.

Perhaps if you provide a little more detail myself or others can be more helpful.

Have you and your H been tested for sexually transmitted diseases? That would be #1 on my list b/4 anything else! Prostitutes are drug users (needles) which means AIDS, Hepatitis, and everything else out there!

-SNS

So sorry you find a need to be here, how awful!

I do believe the cell accidentaly was called... my WH often carries his on his hip or in a pocket and has done this more than once (called unintentionally that is! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . He has even taken to locking the buttons... if a number is pre-programmed (and "home" or W usually is) it can be pused til it dials on most phones (one-touch dialing)

Anyway... I am M to a sexual addict who just had his second A and I do feel your pain! Look around here, lots of great information!

<small>[ February 06, 2005, 09:48 AM: Message edited by: Momma'sSad ]</small>

Welcome to MB!

It was my best friend that found out her h used prostitutes. He would get emails from certain groups on yahoo and that is how she found out about her H having these encounters. Even though it wasn't me going through it, it was sure hard to watch my bf. She is thinking her H has sexual addiction and is seeking a counselor.

Marriage counseling is a great start. Kids are very smart and they sense things even when we think we are covering it up so good. Try very hard to keep giving them love and attention and not lose your temper.