Man, what a bad day. Starts with church in the morning. Turns out the church designated Sunday at "Marriage Appreciation Day". As part of that, the priest asks all married couples to stand and renew thier vows. No mention the previous week in the bulletin, no "for those who would like to renew thier vows". So we stand, b/c not to would have been wierd. Husbands went first, and I did it, but about half way thru the wife's part, with tears in her eyes, she looks up and says she is not comfortable with this. I whispered to her that I understood. After the service at home, I told her that I was not upset (I was not) and that I would like to renew our vows in the future at a time of our choosing. She just nodded, definitely did not want to address this.

Later that day, W goes to work (she is a teacher) to plan for the upcoming week, and both daughters go to a b-day party. So I have a few hours alone at home before I pick up the girls. After they have been home a while, I call W at work to let her know the kids are home, and what are the plans for dinner. She blows up, and said that OM messaged her saying he thought that I was still calling him (haven't called him in months). She is livid, wants him to stop calling so she can move forward. I told her she can carry my cell phone when I am at home and she is working or with friends. This way, if he trys to tell her that I am calling, she will know he is full of shi+. I think yesterday she started to realize this. I have to give her credit, she told me right away.

Hope everyone else had a better Sunday than mine!

I don't think my Sunday was necessarily any better than yours...LOL

I think that your wife crying in church was probably a good sign, and her telling you about the OM calling was also good. I'm not sure what he's trying to gain by telling her repeatedly that you're calling him....what a dillweed.

I'm sorry your Sunday was so bad, hope the week ahead is better for you.

-Caren

BM,
Forgive me for asking but why is your wife still in contact with the OM…for any reason?

This incident would be funny if it wasn’t so sad and stupid! He makes false allegation about you to your wife…which she chooses to believe…and this is happening while I assume, she is suppose to be maintaining NO CONTACT? OK, so what am I missing here? And you didn’t question her on this aspect of the situation? And she has the nerve to question your veracity and integrity?

BM, why would you attempt to prove anything to a WW who is still flagrantly flaunting her continued relationship with her OM in your face?

Sorry my friend, but she is in no position to question anything that you say or do regarding this matter…and you have to be plain crazy to indulge her in any conversation regarding the issue.
Coach

betrayed man,

As usual I would emphatically ditto coach.

Sunday work for a teacher? Been married to two of them, both very dedicated. Can't remember either ever going to school to "prepare" for the week.Sorry to tell you but someones story is not up to snuff.

My father is a teacher in a high school and he does indeed go in on Saturday and Sunday mornings for a couple hours to prepare for the coming week.

I smell a rat. A great big huge RAT. I ain't buying it.

OK, obviously I did not provide enough info or background. Not going to defend the A, but lots of mistakes since on both parts have led us to here.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He makes false allegation about you to your wife…which she chooses to believe…and this is happening while I assume, she is suppose to be maintaining NO CONTACT? OK, so what am I missing here? And you didn’t question her on this aspect of the situation? And she has the nerve to question your veracity and integrity?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I used to call OM to f**k with him. He would then call WW to tell her I was calling. I would lie and deny, trying to make the OM a liar and try to expose him as a "player". Then she found his cell #s on my call list. While these last two times he has lied, she does have reason to not to believe me. I promised to stop calling him, and I did not live up to my end of the bargain.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sunday work for a teacher? Been married to two of them, both very dedicated. Can't remember either ever going to school to "prepare" for the week.Sorry to tell you but someones story is not up to snuff.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">W returned to teaching full-time in Jan for the first time in 10 years. She took over a class with no turn-over, so she is very busy. The school she teaches at is on the military base that we live on and is less than a mile from our house. OM doesn't have base access anymore, I checked. W has phone in classroom which I can call to verify, and have often. She calls me from her class on my cell to show me on caller ID she is at school, we do not have caller ID at home.