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#1272846 02/07/05 12:35 PM
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First time in my life feeling lonely and empty on my Birthday, it's sucks...

Today Feb. 7th its my 32nd years old Birthday...

Lonely and Feeling empty...

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I Need A Hug
at the end of a lengthy
and tiring day
When I've faced the world
in my private way,
I NEED A HUG!

when I'm hungry and cranky
and feeling up tight
and a day has just passed
when too little went right
I NEED A HUG!

when my body is craving
the warmth of another
and my poor aching muscles
compete with each other
I NEED A HUG!

when I'm insecure
and a little bit nutty
and my mind is exhausted
my body like putty
I NEED A HUG!

when i am affectionate
loving and caring
and want to enjoy
a real moment of sharing
I NEED A HUG!!!

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(((((((((Rescue)))))))))))) Happy Birthday!!!!

My birthday was Jan 22nd and it was awful....so I can understand.

But happy birthday love, try to have a good day

-Caren

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Thank you so much!

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Mine was Jan 24... My wife didn't even have the kids tell me happy B-Day... nothing like stabbing at me during an already horrible time... kickin me while I am down...

Yesterday my 4 yr old boy asked me when my B-Day is and I had to tell him it had already passed... he asked why I didn't get to have a party... I said I don't know why... then he said Mommy must have been being mean to Daddy again... I almost cried...

I am so depressed...

I feel for you...

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Mine was the 24th too. I had suspicians for a week. I found out the 26th for sure. Have been a mess ever since. Not looking fwd to Valentine's or my b-day next year.

CarenMc thanks for the good words to me this weekend on my post.

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Mine was the 24th too. I had suspicians for a week. I found out the 26th for sure. Have been a mess ever since. Not looking fwd to Valentine's or my b-day next year.

CarenMc thanks for the good words to me this weekend on my post.

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mine was 11-20....and i feel as empty todaty as i did then...i am not getting better and i REALLY dont knoew what to do....today was very painful for me, worse than the normal emotional torture i endure every day

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Happy Birthday! Keep your chin up!
{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}

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<small>[ February 07, 2005, 04:01 PM: Message edited by: TreeReich* ]</small>

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Lemme join in . . .

My birthday was February 1. Birthdays really send me over the edge because for so many years I thought my husband and I were exclusively celebrating them together -- and then I learned that for many *years* he had been taking his very special female co-workers out for private lunches on their birthdays and buying them cards and gifts, and that they also made a point of taking him out for his birthday and giving him cards and gifts. And they were all very careful not to let me find out about any of this.

About four years ago, in an MB-style attempt to make my presence known at work and try to make nice, I planned a surprise party for H at a local restaurant. I asked a female co-worker and (I thought) family friend, whose husband works for my H, if there was anyone else I should invite. And damn if the first name on the list wasn't the little homewrecking b*tch of a co-worker that he couldn't stay away from for so long and had been celebrating his birthday with behind my back (and there is NO WAY this woman didn't know -- her desk was right outside H's office and she was a pal to the homewrecking b*tch.)

The last straw was 2 1/2 years ago, long after he knew exactly how I felt about these things -- when his current group of co-workers threw him a special birthday party at a nice restaurant and I was NOT invited. He was perfectly happy with this arrangement and to this day he is angry and frustrated that I wanted to be there and swears he can't understand why.

Since then I have had no desire to celebrate either his birthday or mine, but I have always made sure Son gave him a card and a gift and took him out somewhere for dinner. On my birthday, this did not happen. It was just ignored.

And that hurt.

My aunt sent a card, and my daughter and her husband wired some beautiful fresh flowers. I've still got them.

Otherwise, fie on birthdays.
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I'd love to vent myself here too...

For the past few years, we've always had some very special b-days (wife and I). For the past two, we had some rather large ones. All of her friends would get together and throw a big bash. W b-day is in Nov - her sister and I planned a big b-day 'cause it was her #40 - wanted to make it special. It was very fun. So I looked forward to my B-day (not a very well timed one - day after Christmas and all) but we always had fun. This year: nothing at all. The kids and I made a cake, wife was out with friends. Didn't even get me a gift.

Of course I was rather upset, but decided (because I was trying to work on ENs for her and removing LBs for me) that I would stay pleasant and just ask how she was, etc. She conversed a little, then went to bed for the night.

We had some pictures I had taken the day before of our Christmas, some really cute ones of the kids. Her phone is one tha you can send pictures to, but I'd never done it, so I was going thru the menus on it trying to figure out how to accept an email picture.

And I discovered a TM to the OM. That was my D-Day. My Birthday. I doubt my birthday will ever be anything I want to happen ever again.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Rescue Me:
<strong> First time in my life feeling lonely and empty on my Birthday, it's sucks...

Today Feb. 7th its my 32nd years old Birthday...

Lonely and Feeling empty... </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">HAPPY BIRTHDAY FROM ALL OF US AT MB. WE LOVE YOU AND WISH YOU WELL, AND WE ARE ALL PULLING FOR YOU

David

<small>[ February 07, 2005, 07:11 PM: Message edited by: tanelornpete ]</small>

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Also had to post this: Sprint ran it last night and it MADE MY DAY. I wish everyone at MB could see this one:

Night time falls again. This message goes out to everyone out there who may be feeling a little bit lonely, hurt, or scared tonight.

Back in the early days of navigating the globe, sailors used to use the stars to tell them how to get to their destination and then back home again. In the Northern hemisphere they used the North Star, while down under they used the Southern Cross.

Anytime they felt lost and alone, they could look up into the sky and find their way.

Tonight, take walk outside, take a deep breath of air and just look up. if you can see the big dipper, look up off its cusp to the north star.

Close your eyes and think about all the people here in MB offering you their support and prayers, and realize that you are not alone in this.

And from this day forward, when you get scared or lonely - just look up into the sky and find your way home.


DO THAT TONIGHT

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Hi All:

Thank you for all the support and the HUGS, I really appreciate it thank you so much. I was away from the house the whole day driving around the bay area just to forget that its my birthday and I received a call from a friend and we meet up at the restaurant and guess what my divorce care group are all in there. I was shock and thanks god my B-day went ok. Even though wife never told my daughter that its my birthday. She is really pushing me to the limit and she keeps pressing the worng button but button is been long time disable doesn't work anymore no matter how many times she push it.

I would like to say thank you so much...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ALL THE MB's and more power to all... God Bless

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Rescue Me:
<strong> my divorce care group are all in there. I was shock and thanks god my B-day went ok.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Happy BDay ... they didn't tell me about it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> .

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RH,
I was surprise myself sorry I didn’t know that I was going to celebrate my B-day.


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