just out of curiosity how many husbands and wives actually pray together and have devotions daily?

We do. We started during the first month of recovery, nine years ago.

Pep

We do, too. We actually starting praying together before our recovery. I don't know how he could have been lying to me and praying with me and for me at the same time, but God was definitely working. We continue to pray together each morning and I am thankful and amazed at how my husband's heart has changed. We have been in recovery since March, 2001.

Songbird

My WH and I never prayed together, but when and if we do reconcile, I plan on it.

-Caren

Hi 'MyAdvocate'
I wish I could say 'yes' but we don't pray together except while sitting side by side at church.

We only prayed together during marriage counseling with our pastor and at home during that 8 weeks of counseling but that has been a year and a half ago! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

My huband does NOT feel comfortable expressing his feelings verbally and prayer is going deep into our emotions.

I think it is WONDERFUL AND BEAUTIFUL for all the couples that DO say prayer together before going to sleep or together before beginning their day.

Thankfully, we each can pray seperately; that God will guide us and help us through the day.

I also believe prayer isn't just for 'asking' but mostly should consist of thanking Him for our blessings.

Even during the darkest days of my life (and there have been MANY) there was and is MUCH to be thankful for.

Sincerely, Julie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Oops, double post! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

<small>[ February 07, 2005, 05:04 PM: Message edited by: Blessed TIME ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">just out of curiosity how many husbands and wives actually pray together and have devotions daily? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">MyAdvocate: Great question! WXW would not pray w/me - ever! Said it made her feel funny. Would not even read the Bible with me. Interestingly; she was the Christian when we married and I was saved & baptized 2 years into our M.

FR

We do.

It's very important to us. It is most helpful.

SS

when i saw this topic come up, i was very interested in seeing the replies. this has been a tough topic with my H and I. I have asked him, even before d-day, he is not comfortable praying outloud. i'm not sure if i would be either right away, but i sure would like to try anyway.

he is a very private person.

i would love suggestions on how to perhaps change that but i'm not sure i have the right to try to change him in that way.

Hey MA,

Well, I haven't been able to pray "with" my wife or girls for almost a year now... but when I'm home, I pray with my girls each night before bed, and then my W and I do a devotional togheter then we pray together...

Have you ever read The Power of a Praying Husband by Stormie O'Martin?... she also has a book called The Power of a Praying Wife... both are great reads...

Semper Fi,
RIF

At the risk of being too personal...

How do you pray with the kids, like what words, do you say the Lord's pray together, or do you have some other prayer you both say in unison or do you say a "free form" prayer outloud to her and you both say amen. or do you each say a bit and then conclude with amen. or do you say something and have her repeat the phrase???

i would think it depends on the age of the child.

i have not been good about praying with the kdis for so long. i did wth my daughter when she was very little, and it was the "God bless mommy, ..." type of thing. i'm not sure i have ever done even that with my son. on a very rare occasion i have tried to pray outloud with my son recently as i worry about him more. he genearlly seems to have more unhappiness in him than my daughter, i fear he has my disposition, he can be extremely happy and act very goofy but then he can get really down too. and even more of a concern for me is that he often talks about how no one likes him and he seems to always need more.

my daughter is more like my H, her range of emotions is narrower. she is also generally content with life. she has her problems, she is 15 after all, but she seems very healthy. her and i, even at the age of 15, still have a close relationship too. we get on each other's nerves sometimes but we are close under it all. she confides in me and actully likes hanging out (which she straight out tells me I should be extremely thankful for cuz most of her friends don't like their parents, i tell her i am!!!)

my daughter and i have talked about God, she does not really like going to church but she tells me not to worry because she believes in God and she prays every night. she is 15, my son is 10. i figure i am way too late to pray with my daughter, and if what she says is true, then she is doing just fine on her own anyway. i'm not sure how she ended up with the habit of praying. maybe i'll ask her that sometime.

how about a 10yr boy, think i might have luck with him? when we have prayed, he has been open to it, he has not told me to go away or anything!!

and then there is my husband. i have tried to talk about prayer, especially as i have struggled with my relationship to God, this would of been before he knew anything about any As. i have also asked him to read the power of the praying husband, not interested. i have and read, although not lately, the power of the praying wife. i first got that book as i was struggling to break free from the addiction of the As.

One thing i miss so much.... for a few months prior to the first d-day, H was finally going to church with me on a somewhat regular basis, as he finally heard how much i would like to go as a couple instead of sitting there on my own. not only did he start coming, we would hold hands. that meant so much to me. i hope that comes back someday.

so RIF (or anyone else), any thoughts, suggestions?? both for the kids as well as with my H??

Hey FL - I started a new thread for you... didn't want to hijack MA's thread... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I am with CarenMc on this one - we never had (other than when in church), but if we recover, I plan on making it a staple of my relationship - both with my W and my Lord....

TM